"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

Read more...

Is this girl too comfortable around me?

LittleBigOne

Don Juan
Joined
Sep 29, 2005
Messages
189
Reaction score
0
Location
Netherlands
Several weeks ago posted about a co worker who is, to my opinion, flirting a with me. This is not happening all the time but at least a few times a week.

The flirting is more like teasing. We stand eachother in the way in front of the door so she or me can't pass and lately she stole a can of cola out of my hand and when i asked 'how are you gonne make that up with me' she gave me a pretending kiss on the cheek (there were teenage pupils around us so maybe she holded back) and gave the can back.

Today i took her seat and she said no problem and got sitting on my lap for a minute (while my colleagues were sitting around us looking a bit surprised).

All fine you might think but here the problem is: I like the attention and the fun but to me she doesn't look nervous or something like that. I do have the idea she is keeping me in her eye often (mostly VERY quick) but i wonder if she is not too comfortable with me and see me just a nice colleague where you can joke around with. Her character is not shy, is sportive, is having good contact with other people and i haven't seen her as physical with others then with me.

We are both in a relationship and as i write this i have something like i don't need her but when we would be both single i would do serious steps forward to her, now i keep it light.
So, how most woman behave when they are attracted to man? Flirtious, nervous, both???? Looking forward to your opinion!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

SamTheHobit

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 10, 2011
Messages
1,514
Reaction score
95
Location
South Africa
The two comment above me are gold.
 
Top