"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Is this girl too comfortable around me?

LittleBigOne

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Several weeks ago posted about a co worker who is, to my opinion, flirting a with me. This is not happening all the time but at least a few times a week.

The flirting is more like teasing. We stand eachother in the way in front of the door so she or me can't pass and lately she stole a can of cola out of my hand and when i asked 'how are you gonne make that up with me' she gave me a pretending kiss on the cheek (there were teenage pupils around us so maybe she holded back) and gave the can back.

Today i took her seat and she said no problem and got sitting on my lap for a minute (while my colleagues were sitting around us looking a bit surprised).

All fine you might think but here the problem is: I like the attention and the fun but to me she doesn't look nervous or something like that. I do have the idea she is keeping me in her eye often (mostly VERY quick) but i wonder if she is not too comfortable with me and see me just a nice colleague where you can joke around with. Her character is not shy, is sportive, is having good contact with other people and i haven't seen her as physical with others then with me.

We are both in a relationship and as i write this i have something like i don't need her but when we would be both single i would do serious steps forward to her, now i keep it light.
So, how most woman behave when they are attracted to man? Flirtious, nervous, both???? Looking forward to your opinion!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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SamTheHobit

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The two comment above me are gold.
 
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