"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Is this creepy?

itishe

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I think so, but wanted your guy's opinion.

Meet a girl in class today that you just noticed. She's cute and you introduce yourself and have some small talk. In walks professor and hands out final, everyone's mouths shut and you're taking the test. You get done with the test but you want her number, she's not close to be doing so you don't plan on sitting around waiting.

Seeing as I have her name is it creepy to add her to facebook?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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alwaysimproving7

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you talk to girls before and after class to build rapport NOT in class when the professor is talking or when people are taking a test...get what im sayin? lol

And yes it is creepy if you never talked to her and just look her up on facebook. She's gonna think you're a stalker. Common sense bro.
 

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It's generally better to talk to someone face to face and build a little rapport with them before adding them on an online social network. So to answer your question, is it creepy? Yes, maybe. Have I done it? Sure. But you're more likely to see a drop in your success rate.
 

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i added some girls on facebook cause we started a study group.
try that
lol



or talk to her before/after class - facebook wont get you anywhere
 

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Guys, reread what I posted.

TODAY WAS FINALS. No more class.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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MisterMcGee

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Then sure add her on facebook if you're never gonna see her again, just dont be creepy. if youve got some value from class you should be fine.
 

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If your asking yourself if its creepy, then it is.

The thing is, that it can be done, without being projected as creepy.

But unfortunately, if you have to question whether it is or not, then your going to come off as creepy.

Now I question why your first and only Introduction was during finals, and why you even want to persue this, but NONETHELESS. Here we go..

The ONLY way you can pull this off from the position your in, IS TO BE UPFRONT AND GENUINE WITH YOUR INTENTIONS. (BUT DONT OVER DUE IT) Some kind of message that states something like this:

"Listen, I know I have had about 2 minutes of experience talking to you, but their was something I liked about it... To be honest, Adding you to Facebook doesnt feel like the most Natural way of getting the chance to know you, But im doing it anyway. Hoping to hear from you, PerfectCircle."
 

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PerfectCircle said:
If your asking yourself if its creepy, then it is.

The thing is, that it can be done, without being projected as creepy.

But unfortunately, if you have to question whether it is or not, then your going to come off as creepy.

Now I question why your first and only Introduction was during finals, and why you even want to persue this, but NONETHELESS. Here we go..

The ONLY way you can pull this off from the position your in, IS TO BE UPFRONT AND GENUINE WITH YOUR INTENTIONS. (BUT DONT OVER DUE IT) Some kind of message that states something like this:

"Listen, I know I have had about 2 minutes of experience talking to you, but their was something I liked about it... To be honest, Adding you to Facebook doesnt feel like the most Natural way of getting the chance to know you, But im doing it anyway. Hoping to hear from you, PerfectCircle."
That sounds like you're trying too hard to be honest.
 

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PerfectCircle said:
If your asking yourself if its creepy, then it is.

The thing is, that it can be done, without being projected as creepy.

But unfortunately, if you have to question whether it is or not, then your going to come off as creepy.

Now I question why your first and only Introduction was during finals, and why you even want to persue this, but NONETHELESS. Here we go..

The ONLY way you can pull this off from the position your in, IS TO BE UPFRONT AND GENUINE WITH YOUR INTENTIONS. (BUT DONT OVER DUE IT) Some kind of message that states something like this:

"Listen, I know I have had about 2 minutes of experience talking to you, but their was something I liked about it... To be honest, Adding you to Facebook doesnt feel like the most Natural way of getting the chance to know you, But im doing it anyway. Hoping to hear from you, PerfectCircle."
Wow thats bad. Don't do that. You don't even know what "creepy" means. THAT is a typical creepy thing to say.
And it's over do, not over due.
 

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agreed with mcgee..that message is creepy as hell. my group of friends hang out with some hot girls and they are constantly getting messages like that...either a) just add b) say "was i the only one who bombed that xxxxxx final? haha" or c) dont add at all (what id do, then just wait to run into her in person on campus)
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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PerfectCircle said:
If your asking yourself if its creepy, then it is.

The thing is, that it can be done, without being projected as creepy.

But unfortunately, if you have to question whether it is or not, then your going to come off as creepy.

Now I question why your first and only Introduction was during finals, and why you even want to persue this, but NONETHELESS. Here we go..

The ONLY way you can pull this off from the position your in, IS TO BE UPFRONT AND GENUINE WITH YOUR INTENTIONS. (BUT DONT OVER DUE IT) Some kind of message that states something like this:

"Listen, I know I have had about 2 minutes of experience talking to you, but their was something I liked about it... To be honest, Adding you to Facebook doesnt feel like the most Natural way of getting the chance to know you, But im doing it anyway. Hoping to hear from you, PerfectCircle."
whatever you do, don't send a message like this.
 

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Yeah, I never planned on sending a message like that. I wish to get laid, not peppersprayed.

Eh, I think I'll have to pass on this broad just seems too weird for me to add her like this. It's like me finding her number in the phone book because I know her name and just randomly call her up.
 
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