"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Is this creepy?

itishe

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I think so, but wanted your guy's opinion.

Meet a girl in class today that you just noticed. She's cute and you introduce yourself and have some small talk. In walks professor and hands out final, everyone's mouths shut and you're taking the test. You get done with the test but you want her number, she's not close to be doing so you don't plan on sitting around waiting.

Seeing as I have her name is it creepy to add her to facebook?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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you talk to girls before and after class to build rapport NOT in class when the professor is talking or when people are taking a test...get what im sayin? lol

And yes it is creepy if you never talked to her and just look her up on facebook. She's gonna think you're a stalker. Common sense bro.
 

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It's generally better to talk to someone face to face and build a little rapport with them before adding them on an online social network. So to answer your question, is it creepy? Yes, maybe. Have I done it? Sure. But you're more likely to see a drop in your success rate.
 

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i added some girls on facebook cause we started a study group.
try that
lol



or talk to her before/after class - facebook wont get you anywhere
 

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Guys, reread what I posted.

TODAY WAS FINALS. No more class.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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MisterMcGee

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Then sure add her on facebook if you're never gonna see her again, just dont be creepy. if youve got some value from class you should be fine.
 

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If your asking yourself if its creepy, then it is.

The thing is, that it can be done, without being projected as creepy.

But unfortunately, if you have to question whether it is or not, then your going to come off as creepy.

Now I question why your first and only Introduction was during finals, and why you even want to persue this, but NONETHELESS. Here we go..

The ONLY way you can pull this off from the position your in, IS TO BE UPFRONT AND GENUINE WITH YOUR INTENTIONS. (BUT DONT OVER DUE IT) Some kind of message that states something like this:

"Listen, I know I have had about 2 minutes of experience talking to you, but their was something I liked about it... To be honest, Adding you to Facebook doesnt feel like the most Natural way of getting the chance to know you, But im doing it anyway. Hoping to hear from you, PerfectCircle."
 

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PerfectCircle said:
If your asking yourself if its creepy, then it is.

The thing is, that it can be done, without being projected as creepy.

But unfortunately, if you have to question whether it is or not, then your going to come off as creepy.

Now I question why your first and only Introduction was during finals, and why you even want to persue this, but NONETHELESS. Here we go..

The ONLY way you can pull this off from the position your in, IS TO BE UPFRONT AND GENUINE WITH YOUR INTENTIONS. (BUT DONT OVER DUE IT) Some kind of message that states something like this:

"Listen, I know I have had about 2 minutes of experience talking to you, but their was something I liked about it... To be honest, Adding you to Facebook doesnt feel like the most Natural way of getting the chance to know you, But im doing it anyway. Hoping to hear from you, PerfectCircle."
That sounds like you're trying too hard to be honest.
 

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PerfectCircle said:
If your asking yourself if its creepy, then it is.

The thing is, that it can be done, without being projected as creepy.

But unfortunately, if you have to question whether it is or not, then your going to come off as creepy.

Now I question why your first and only Introduction was during finals, and why you even want to persue this, but NONETHELESS. Here we go..

The ONLY way you can pull this off from the position your in, IS TO BE UPFRONT AND GENUINE WITH YOUR INTENTIONS. (BUT DONT OVER DUE IT) Some kind of message that states something like this:

"Listen, I know I have had about 2 minutes of experience talking to you, but their was something I liked about it... To be honest, Adding you to Facebook doesnt feel like the most Natural way of getting the chance to know you, But im doing it anyway. Hoping to hear from you, PerfectCircle."
Wow thats bad. Don't do that. You don't even know what "creepy" means. THAT is a typical creepy thing to say.
And it's over do, not over due.
 

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agreed with mcgee..that message is creepy as hell. my group of friends hang out with some hot girls and they are constantly getting messages like that...either a) just add b) say "was i the only one who bombed that xxxxxx final? haha" or c) dont add at all (what id do, then just wait to run into her in person on campus)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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PerfectCircle said:
If your asking yourself if its creepy, then it is.

The thing is, that it can be done, without being projected as creepy.

But unfortunately, if you have to question whether it is or not, then your going to come off as creepy.

Now I question why your first and only Introduction was during finals, and why you even want to persue this, but NONETHELESS. Here we go..

The ONLY way you can pull this off from the position your in, IS TO BE UPFRONT AND GENUINE WITH YOUR INTENTIONS. (BUT DONT OVER DUE IT) Some kind of message that states something like this:

"Listen, I know I have had about 2 minutes of experience talking to you, but their was something I liked about it... To be honest, Adding you to Facebook doesnt feel like the most Natural way of getting the chance to know you, But im doing it anyway. Hoping to hear from you, PerfectCircle."
whatever you do, don't send a message like this.
 

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Yeah, I never planned on sending a message like that. I wish to get laid, not peppersprayed.

Eh, I think I'll have to pass on this broad just seems too weird for me to add her like this. It's like me finding her number in the phone book because I know her name and just randomly call her up.
 
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