"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Is this creepy?

itishe

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I think so, but wanted your guy's opinion.

Meet a girl in class today that you just noticed. She's cute and you introduce yourself and have some small talk. In walks professor and hands out final, everyone's mouths shut and you're taking the test. You get done with the test but you want her number, she's not close to be doing so you don't plan on sitting around waiting.

Seeing as I have her name is it creepy to add her to facebook?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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alwaysimproving7

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you talk to girls before and after class to build rapport NOT in class when the professor is talking or when people are taking a test...get what im sayin? lol

And yes it is creepy if you never talked to her and just look her up on facebook. She's gonna think you're a stalker. Common sense bro.
 

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It's generally better to talk to someone face to face and build a little rapport with them before adding them on an online social network. So to answer your question, is it creepy? Yes, maybe. Have I done it? Sure. But you're more likely to see a drop in your success rate.
 

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i added some girls on facebook cause we started a study group.
try that
lol



or talk to her before/after class - facebook wont get you anywhere
 

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Guys, reread what I posted.

TODAY WAS FINALS. No more class.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Then sure add her on facebook if you're never gonna see her again, just dont be creepy. if youve got some value from class you should be fine.
 

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If your asking yourself if its creepy, then it is.

The thing is, that it can be done, without being projected as creepy.

But unfortunately, if you have to question whether it is or not, then your going to come off as creepy.

Now I question why your first and only Introduction was during finals, and why you even want to persue this, but NONETHELESS. Here we go..

The ONLY way you can pull this off from the position your in, IS TO BE UPFRONT AND GENUINE WITH YOUR INTENTIONS. (BUT DONT OVER DUE IT) Some kind of message that states something like this:

"Listen, I know I have had about 2 minutes of experience talking to you, but their was something I liked about it... To be honest, Adding you to Facebook doesnt feel like the most Natural way of getting the chance to know you, But im doing it anyway. Hoping to hear from you, PerfectCircle."
 

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PerfectCircle said:
If your asking yourself if its creepy, then it is.

The thing is, that it can be done, without being projected as creepy.

But unfortunately, if you have to question whether it is or not, then your going to come off as creepy.

Now I question why your first and only Introduction was during finals, and why you even want to persue this, but NONETHELESS. Here we go..

The ONLY way you can pull this off from the position your in, IS TO BE UPFRONT AND GENUINE WITH YOUR INTENTIONS. (BUT DONT OVER DUE IT) Some kind of message that states something like this:

"Listen, I know I have had about 2 minutes of experience talking to you, but their was something I liked about it... To be honest, Adding you to Facebook doesnt feel like the most Natural way of getting the chance to know you, But im doing it anyway. Hoping to hear from you, PerfectCircle."
That sounds like you're trying too hard to be honest.
 

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PerfectCircle said:
If your asking yourself if its creepy, then it is.

The thing is, that it can be done, without being projected as creepy.

But unfortunately, if you have to question whether it is or not, then your going to come off as creepy.

Now I question why your first and only Introduction was during finals, and why you even want to persue this, but NONETHELESS. Here we go..

The ONLY way you can pull this off from the position your in, IS TO BE UPFRONT AND GENUINE WITH YOUR INTENTIONS. (BUT DONT OVER DUE IT) Some kind of message that states something like this:

"Listen, I know I have had about 2 minutes of experience talking to you, but their was something I liked about it... To be honest, Adding you to Facebook doesnt feel like the most Natural way of getting the chance to know you, But im doing it anyway. Hoping to hear from you, PerfectCircle."
Wow thats bad. Don't do that. You don't even know what "creepy" means. THAT is a typical creepy thing to say.
And it's over do, not over due.
 

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agreed with mcgee..that message is creepy as hell. my group of friends hang out with some hot girls and they are constantly getting messages like that...either a) just add b) say "was i the only one who bombed that xxxxxx final? haha" or c) dont add at all (what id do, then just wait to run into her in person on campus)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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PerfectCircle said:
If your asking yourself if its creepy, then it is.

The thing is, that it can be done, without being projected as creepy.

But unfortunately, if you have to question whether it is or not, then your going to come off as creepy.

Now I question why your first and only Introduction was during finals, and why you even want to persue this, but NONETHELESS. Here we go..

The ONLY way you can pull this off from the position your in, IS TO BE UPFRONT AND GENUINE WITH YOUR INTENTIONS. (BUT DONT OVER DUE IT) Some kind of message that states something like this:

"Listen, I know I have had about 2 minutes of experience talking to you, but their was something I liked about it... To be honest, Adding you to Facebook doesnt feel like the most Natural way of getting the chance to know you, But im doing it anyway. Hoping to hear from you, PerfectCircle."
whatever you do, don't send a message like this.
 

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Yeah, I never planned on sending a message like that. I wish to get laid, not peppersprayed.

Eh, I think I'll have to pass on this broad just seems too weird for me to add her like this. It's like me finding her number in the phone book because I know her name and just randomly call her up.
 
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