"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Is this an AFC move?

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GF is staying at home today and not going to work . I lost my job a few years ago and have been doing odd jobs. I currently don't have a job and today is Monday. I know I should look for a job but my GF isn't working today , however I did spend all weekend with her but I want to spend more time with her so I'm not going to look for a job today . Is this an AFC move?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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mikey2012 said:
GF is staying at home today and not going to work . I lost my job a few years ago and have been doing odd jobs. I currently don't have a job and today is Monday. I know I should look for a job but my GF isn't working today , however I did spend all weekend with her but I want to spend more time with her so I'm not going to look for a job today . Is this an AFC move?
I would look for a job... Basic living(yourself) comes before everything else, If I can't put bread on the table or a roof over my head then I'm not really doing what's best for myself.
 

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Frayzer said:
I would look for a job... Basic living(yourself) comes before everything else, If I can't put bread on the table or a roof over my head then I'm not really doing what's best for myself.
But I'm scared she might leave me or have an affair if I'm not around her
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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mikey2012 said:
But I'm scared she might leave me or have an affair if I'm not around her
Dude, she'll be more likely to have an affair or cheat if you're clinging to her like a scared child.

She's already probably wondering why you are spending time with her in lieu of getting a job and if she isn't then she's not worth your time.
 

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The_411 said:
Dude, she'll be more likely to have an affair or cheat if you're clinging to her like a scared child.

She's already probably wondering why you are spending time with her in lieu of getting a job and if she isn't then she's not worth your time.
Thanks for your input . But she had an affair before and I forgave her . But despite not having a job she still with me. What are your thoughts about having a kid to make us feel closer ?
 

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mikey2012 said:
Thanks for your input . But she had an affair before and I forgave her . But despite not having a job she still with me. What are your thoughts about having a kid to make us feel closer ?
I give up. either you're a great troll or you need to grow a sack. Why would you keep around after she had an affair? I don't care how hot a woman is if she cheats it's adios. Nobody deserves that crap unless they of course are forgiving someone who cheats then guess what that's on you.

Get a job, kick this girl to the curb, and find some dignity.
 

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The_411 said:
I give up. either you're a great troll or you need to grow a sack. Why would you keep around after she had an affair? I don't care how hot a woman is if she cheats it's adios. Nobody deserves that crap unless they of course are forgiving someone who cheats then guess what that's on you.

Get a job, kick this girl to the curb, and find some dignity.
Thanks . Good advice
 

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There seems to be quite a few threads like this lately, though many of them are coming from the red reputation posters.

I'm surprised someone with 400 posts and a bunch of time here hasn't understood basic concepts like:

-Don't remain with girls who cheat

-Get a life and hobbies outside of your girl

-Stop worrying so damn much
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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If you have to ask if something is "afc" then yes its afc.

If you don't get a job.. She WILL lose attraction. Unless she's an old cougar sugar mama looking for young dyck.

Either way.. It won't last unless your the man with a plan.

As George Thourghgood says "get a hair cut and get a REAL job.

Epi

Edit: kids WILL NOT make you closer. The only closer you will be getting will be closer to afc and her losing even more time/attraction for you. You have to have a good solid foundation before you bring kids into this world. Your "closer" will be all of 5 seconds as you blow your load.. After that you will be on the back burner and handing over your paycheck.
 

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Dreesy said:
There seems to be quite a few threads like this lately, though many of them are coming from the red reputation posters.

I'm surprised someone with 400 posts and a bunch of time here hasn't understood basic concepts like:

-Don't remain with girls who cheat

-Get a life and hobbies outside of your girl

-Stop worrying so damn much

Damn. My younger brother used my account. Ignore him.
 

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mikey2012 said:
Damn. My younger brother used my account. Ignore him.
Sure......... We'll believe that!
#Nothingwasthesame after this day.
 
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