"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Is this AFC?

AverageFC

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So I'm happy with my life right now. Based on reading the Bible and this forums, I've improved my mental attitude, and while I thought I was walking properly beforehand, I realized I wasnt and corrected that immediately. Just about every area of my life (college, extracurricular, etc) is great.

Provided all this, is it still AFC to want a GF/relationship?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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diablo

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Why would it be? It's human nature to want something desirable - the only way it could turn into something considered "AFC" is by certain actions you take in the belief that it will result in said "gf/relationship".
 

AverageFC

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Well if wanting a relationship meant producing some sort of negative energy, I didnt want to reflect that in my life.
 

Kaine

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You're feeling is natural. It's human nature to desire companionship

A problem only occurs when this desire cause's an imbalance in your life. Just don't make it a primary focal point.

If you put too much focus on it, you will likely to act needy and desperate. Self sabotage at it's very best.

Keep learning but don't fret it.

Kaine
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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thefonz

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godam i am so hot.....just needed to get that off my chest
 

Lifeforce

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Focus more on what you want and less about what it DJ/AFC.
 
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