"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Is this AFC?

AverageFC

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So I'm happy with my life right now. Based on reading the Bible and this forums, I've improved my mental attitude, and while I thought I was walking properly beforehand, I realized I wasnt and corrected that immediately. Just about every area of my life (college, extracurricular, etc) is great.

Provided all this, is it still AFC to want a GF/relationship?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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diablo

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Why would it be? It's human nature to want something desirable - the only way it could turn into something considered "AFC" is by certain actions you take in the belief that it will result in said "gf/relationship".
 

AverageFC

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Well if wanting a relationship meant producing some sort of negative energy, I didnt want to reflect that in my life.
 

Kaine

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You're feeling is natural. It's human nature to desire companionship

A problem only occurs when this desire cause's an imbalance in your life. Just don't make it a primary focal point.

If you put too much focus on it, you will likely to act needy and desperate. Self sabotage at it's very best.

Keep learning but don't fret it.

Kaine
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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thefonz

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godam i am so hot.....just needed to get that off my chest
 

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Focus more on what you want and less about what it DJ/AFC.
 
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