Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Is this AFC?

AverageFC

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So I'm happy with my life right now. Based on reading the Bible and this forums, I've improved my mental attitude, and while I thought I was walking properly beforehand, I realized I wasnt and corrected that immediately. Just about every area of my life (college, extracurricular, etc) is great.

Provided all this, is it still AFC to want a GF/relationship?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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diablo

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Why would it be? It's human nature to want something desirable - the only way it could turn into something considered "AFC" is by certain actions you take in the belief that it will result in said "gf/relationship".
 

AverageFC

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Well if wanting a relationship meant producing some sort of negative energy, I didnt want to reflect that in my life.
 

Kaine

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You're feeling is natural. It's human nature to desire companionship

A problem only occurs when this desire cause's an imbalance in your life. Just don't make it a primary focal point.

If you put too much focus on it, you will likely to act needy and desperate. Self sabotage at it's very best.

Keep learning but don't fret it.

Kaine
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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thefonz

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godam i am so hot.....just needed to get that off my chest
 

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Focus more on what you want and less about what it DJ/AFC.
 
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