"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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As talked about in another post, my gf of a year broke up w/ me a little less than a week ago. She said she didn't wanna do it anymore and asked for all her stuff back. I didn't wine or plea or beg, I complied and left all of her belongings in her car while she was at work.

Went full NC, she just texted me tonight wanting to meet up. My first thought is to tell her she made her bed now lay in it, but I'd be lying if I said I didnt wanna see her again. What would your response/action be? Much appreciated.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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How about snapchatting a girl? Is that the same attention giver as a text?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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No response.

Delete text and block. You deserve better than a woman who randomly breaks up with you and says "I don't want to do it anymore."

If she gets back with you, it's just out of comfort, because she didn't get the response she wanted and because her other option didn't fall through.

Nothing stopping her from breaking up with you again or even cheating on you as soon as another c0ck comes knocking.
 
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marmel75 said:
"Meeting up with a friend...sorry."

=hamster overdrive turbo
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Ahhhh dammit hahaha. Wish I would've seen this sooner I would've said that. Following coach Corey Wayne he teaches not to ignore so all I said was I can't tonight, sorry. Didn't get a response but just found out she blocked me on IG/FB.
 
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JonnyD123 said:
so all I said was I can't tonight, sorry.
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Has the same effect on her. Both statements tell her you're busy living your life without her in it.
Your life didn't magically end when she decided to look for strange dik, did it?
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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JonnyD123 said:
Ahhhh dammit hahaha. Wish I would've seen this sooner I would've said that. Following coach Corey Wayne he teaches not to ignore so all I said was I can't tonight, sorry. Didn't get a response but just found out she blocked me on IG/FB.
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Typical actions when a woman's emotions are raging from insecurity.

Make sure you don't show her that you've even noticed her blocking you. Just continue with life as usual. Don't give her the validation of knowing that you've even checked her fb or IG.
 
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Typical actions when a woman's emotions are raging from insecurity.

Make sure you don't show her that you've even noticed her blocking you. Just continue with life as usual. Don't give her the validation of knowing that you've even checked her fb or IG.
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Done and done. I'm chilling man haha
 
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When a woman overtly says it's not working out, take her word for it.

If you go back she'll bring up hell again soon and you will be miserable.

You are anyway going to do what you are going to do, just remember, this is only going to go south if you stay in touch.
 
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JonnyD123 said:
As talked about in another post, my gf of a year broke up w/ me a little less than a week ago. She said she didn't wanna do it anymore and asked for all her stuff back. I didn't wine or plea or beg, I complied and left all of her belongings in her car while she was at work.

Went full NC, she just texted me tonight wanting to meet up. My first thought is to tell her she made her bed now lay in it, but I'd be lying if I said I didnt wanna see her again. What would your response/action be? Much appreciated.
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Sounds like she was branch swinging to the next guy then the branch broke now she is looking backwards.


Don't give her anything more than "sorry can't meet up with you. I have a date at that time."
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Dude, take this from me because my ex left in pretty much the same way: she said "I don't feel it anymore" in the same day she was jumping from joy when she saw me and hugged me and kissed and we had awesome sex just a couple of days before that.

When a woman tells you "I can't do this anymore", she's not your kinda woman. This is the kinda woman that will handle everything in her life like this, by leaving. It's their nature, most of them anyways. They just leave because it makes them feel like they do not have any responsability for whatever happened. Take it easy, boy, and DO NOT ANSWER. **** her, she made her bed, now let her lay in it. Emotionally unstable and immature, she's a disaster waiting to happen. Nothing more than a booty call and I would even avoid that since it will probably stir you up with emotions and might lead to wrong decisions in the future.
 
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You dodged the bullet.:D
 
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Dude, take this from me because my ex left in pretty much the same way: she said "I don't feel it anymore" in the same day she was jumping from joy when she saw me and hugged me and kissed and we had awesome sex just a couple of days before that.

When a woman tells you "I can't do this anymore", she's not your kinda woman. This is the kinda woman that will handle everything in her life like this, by leaving. It's their nature, most of them anyways. They just leave because it makes them feel like they do not have any responsability for whatever happened. Take it easy, boy, and DO NOT ANSWER. **** her, she made her bed, now let her lay in it. Emotionally unstable and immature, she's a disaster waiting to happen. Nothing more than a booty call and I would even avoid that since it will probably stir you up with emotions and might lead to wrong decisions in the future.
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Right on the money man, especially the whole leaving to avoid responsibility thing. She's very good at playing the victim and although I know she still has feelings for me, she's bailed in the past and I know things just aren't going to change.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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