Lostsoul85
Don Juan
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I am about 5 ft 8 166 Bmi of around 25
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She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Well 14.5 is not small (mine are around 16 3/4) but they look kinda small because your chest and lats are bigger, so compared to those areas it makes your arms and traps look weak by comparison.Lostsoul85 said:Interesting observation while my arms are about 14.5 inches and i can curl 40lb dumbells with each arm and do tricep pushdown with ALL of the weights on the rack(I actually have to add a 45 lb plate) my arms are still small..you are saying they look underdeveloped.I would say my triceps are one of my strongest areas and it makes up 2/3 of the arm..
Maybe it was the camera angle
Here is a better video of me flexing..
18-20 percent bodyfat?
I was thinking maybe 17 at the most
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pOmz1wd4_QM
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Yes for your height, you are pretty solidly built. Just get those arms and traps bigger and you will be much more aesthetic.Lostsoul85 said:you see i have no problems if its a builtfat 18 percent bodyfat. Some fat but descent amount of muscle underneath it.
Regardless of the specific numbers
Would you say overalll i am a solidly built and muscular 15-20% or Skinnyfat 15-20%?
Be honest in your criticism.
I second this and also, He needs more delt/shoulder work. Arms definitely need work.cordoncordon said:Just to add to this. Your arms and traps are a real weak point. It is giving kind of a square, boxy look with sticks coming out of your body. Don't get me wrong, it is better than most.
For your arms, do this. My arms grew an inch in a month from this, and I am wayyyyyy older than you. Either right before you go to bed or when you are done at the gym as your last exercise, get 2 15 pound dumbbells. First do 100 skullcrushers while laying down on the ground with each dumbbell. Then get right up, sit on your knees, and do 60 hammer curls. Take a one minute break, and do it again. And then one more time. So 3 sets of each. Trust me by the time you are done (should take about 10-15 minutes) your arms will be more pumped that you have ever felt them. And oh yeah, do that EVERY day for at least 1.5-2 months.Maybe take a Sunday off. After a month or two, cut it back do doing it about 3 times a week. Anymore than that and you risk injury. It really takes a toll on your arms.
For your traps? I would recommend this. Take a 20-30 pound dumbbell in each arm, and first to a forward raise so the dumbbell comes straight out in front of you. Then do the other arm. Then using both arms, do a lateral raise and remember to 'pour' at the top of the move so it looks like you are pointing your thumbs downwards. Do that twice a week.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.