Lostsoul85
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I am about 5 ft 8 166 Bmi of around 25
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You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Well 14.5 is not small (mine are around 16 3/4) but they look kinda small because your chest and lats are bigger, so compared to those areas it makes your arms and traps look weak by comparison.Lostsoul85 said:Interesting observation while my arms are about 14.5 inches and i can curl 40lb dumbells with each arm and do tricep pushdown with ALL of the weights on the rack(I actually have to add a 45 lb plate) my arms are still small..you are saying they look underdeveloped.I would say my triceps are one of my strongest areas and it makes up 2/3 of the arm..
Maybe it was the camera angle
Here is a better video of me flexing..
18-20 percent bodyfat?
I was thinking maybe 17 at the most
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pOmz1wd4_QM
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Yes for your height, you are pretty solidly built. Just get those arms and traps bigger and you will be much more aesthetic.Lostsoul85 said:you see i have no problems if its a builtfat 18 percent bodyfat. Some fat but descent amount of muscle underneath it.
Regardless of the specific numbers
Would you say overalll i am a solidly built and muscular 15-20% or Skinnyfat 15-20%?
Be honest in your criticism.
I second this and also, He needs more delt/shoulder work. Arms definitely need work.cordoncordon said:Just to add to this. Your arms and traps are a real weak point. It is giving kind of a square, boxy look with sticks coming out of your body. Don't get me wrong, it is better than most.
For your arms, do this. My arms grew an inch in a month from this, and I am wayyyyyy older than you. Either right before you go to bed or when you are done at the gym as your last exercise, get 2 15 pound dumbbells. First do 100 skullcrushers while laying down on the ground with each dumbbell. Then get right up, sit on your knees, and do 60 hammer curls. Take a one minute break, and do it again. And then one more time. So 3 sets of each. Trust me by the time you are done (should take about 10-15 minutes) your arms will be more pumped that you have ever felt them. And oh yeah, do that EVERY day for at least 1.5-2 months.Maybe take a Sunday off. After a month or two, cut it back do doing it about 3 times a week. Anymore than that and you risk injury. It really takes a toll on your arms.
For your traps? I would recommend this. Take a 20-30 pound dumbbell in each arm, and first to a forward raise so the dumbbell comes straight out in front of you. Then do the other arm. Then using both arms, do a lateral raise and remember to 'pour' at the top of the move so it looks like you are pointing your thumbs downwards. Do that twice a week.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.