Lostsoul85
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I am about 5 ft 8 166 Bmi of around 25
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Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Well 14.5 is not small (mine are around 16 3/4) but they look kinda small because your chest and lats are bigger, so compared to those areas it makes your arms and traps look weak by comparison.Lostsoul85 said:Interesting observation while my arms are about 14.5 inches and i can curl 40lb dumbells with each arm and do tricep pushdown with ALL of the weights on the rack(I actually have to add a 45 lb plate) my arms are still small..you are saying they look underdeveloped.I would say my triceps are one of my strongest areas and it makes up 2/3 of the arm..
Maybe it was the camera angle
Here is a better video of me flexing..
18-20 percent bodyfat?
I was thinking maybe 17 at the most
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pOmz1wd4_QM
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Yes for your height, you are pretty solidly built. Just get those arms and traps bigger and you will be much more aesthetic.Lostsoul85 said:you see i have no problems if its a builtfat 18 percent bodyfat. Some fat but descent amount of muscle underneath it.
Regardless of the specific numbers
Would you say overalll i am a solidly built and muscular 15-20% or Skinnyfat 15-20%?
Be honest in your criticism.
I second this and also, He needs more delt/shoulder work. Arms definitely need work.cordoncordon said:Just to add to this. Your arms and traps are a real weak point. It is giving kind of a square, boxy look with sticks coming out of your body. Don't get me wrong, it is better than most.
For your arms, do this. My arms grew an inch in a month from this, and I am wayyyyyy older than you. Either right before you go to bed or when you are done at the gym as your last exercise, get 2 15 pound dumbbells. First do 100 skullcrushers while laying down on the ground with each dumbbell. Then get right up, sit on your knees, and do 60 hammer curls. Take a one minute break, and do it again. And then one more time. So 3 sets of each. Trust me by the time you are done (should take about 10-15 minutes) your arms will be more pumped that you have ever felt them. And oh yeah, do that EVERY day for at least 1.5-2 months.Maybe take a Sunday off. After a month or two, cut it back do doing it about 3 times a week. Anymore than that and you risk injury. It really takes a toll on your arms.
For your traps? I would recommend this. Take a 20-30 pound dumbbell in each arm, and first to a forward raise so the dumbbell comes straight out in front of you. Then do the other arm. Then using both arms, do a lateral raise and remember to 'pour' at the top of the move so it looks like you are pointing your thumbs downwards. Do that twice a week.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.