"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Is this 15 percent bodyfat?

Lostsoul85

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I am about 5 ft 8 166 Bmi of around 25
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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yeah i tend to store fat in my stomach and face and love handles.Not too much in the glutes.If i didn't lift i would be skinny fat.The thing that bothers me however, is that alot of times i wear tight shirts and walk straight and notice that women don't look in my direction when i check them out and give me alot of smiling ios or approach signals.It's like i want them to look my way but either they are very sneaky and don't let me catch them or they just aren't interested.I am wondering if this is because if i have too much muscle for my height or if my bodyfat is slightly to high at 15 or whatever percent.I admit it is a problem looking for attention to see if women are checking me out (maybe narcissm) which is approval seeking.
 

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Yes, that looks to be maybe not exactly but definitely around 15% body fat.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I would agree, your between 15-20% but I would say definitely not lower than 15%. You trying to bulk or cut? Coming from my experience as an ectomorph your best bet is to slow bulk, lift heavy, and then cut to where your satisfied. As an ectomorph I find it easy to cut weight but it takes a **** ton of work to put on quality mass without gaining too much fat.
 

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Just trying to maintain and maybe recomp i don't want to put on any more fat.I wouldn't mind putting on more muscle but don't want to go through cut.bulk cycles so i just continue to eat at maintenance.
 

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No. You are around 18-20%. You would have more vascularity if you were at 15%.

IF you really want an opinion, post that on the MISC at bodybuilding.com. But be prepared to be roasted haha.
 

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Just to add to this. Your arms and traps are a real weak point. It is giving kind of a square, boxy look with sticks coming out of your body. Don't get me wrong, it is better than most.

For your arms, do this. My arms grew an inch in a month from this, and I am wayyyyyy older than you. Either right before you go to bed or when you are done at the gym as your last exercise, get 2 15 pound dumbbells. First do 100 skullcrushers while laying down on the ground with each dumbbell. Then get right up, sit on your knees, and do 60 hammer curls. Take a one minute break, and do it again. And then one more time. So 3 sets of each. Trust me by the time you are done (should take about 10-15 minutes) your arms will be more pumped that you have ever felt them. And oh yeah, do that EVERY day for at least 1.5-2 months. :) Maybe take a Sunday off. After a month or two, cut it back do doing it about 3 times a week. Anymore than that and you risk injury. It really takes a toll on your arms.

For your traps? I would recommend this. Take a 20-30 pound dumbbell in each arm, and first to a forward raise so the dumbbell comes straight out in front of you. Then do the other arm. Then using both arms, do a lateral raise and remember to 'pour' at the top of the move so it looks like you are pointing your thumbs downwards. Do that twice a week.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Interesting observation while my arms are about 14.5 inches and i can curl 40lb dumbells with each arm and do tricep pushdown with ALL of the weights on the rack(I actually have to add a 45 lb plate) my arms are still small..you are saying they look underdeveloped.I would say my triceps are one of my strongest areas and it makes up 2/3 of the ar.
 
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Anatomically speaking the tricep makes up 2/3 of any male's upper arm.. I don't know why numbers matter, if you want to look leaner just keep losing weight until you're where you want to be. You're fixating on something that has no bearing on anything.
 

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Lostsoul85 said:
Interesting observation while my arms are about 14.5 inches and i can curl 40lb dumbells with each arm and do tricep pushdown with ALL of the weights on the rack(I actually have to add a 45 lb plate) my arms are still small..you are saying they look underdeveloped.I would say my triceps are one of my strongest areas and it makes up 2/3 of the arm..

Maybe it was the camera angle

Here is a better video of me flexing..

18-20 percent bodyfat?

I was thinking maybe 17 at the most

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pOmz1wd4_QM
Well 14.5 is not small (mine are around 16 3/4) but they look kinda small because your chest and lats are bigger, so compared to those areas it makes your arms and traps look weak by comparison.

Honestly if I had to guess I would put you right around 18-19%.
 

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Yeah that second video confirmed it. Arms and traps are super weak. You tube Nick Wright, he has traps just like you. Or lack of I should say. But he has giant arms so he looks really uneven.
 

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you see i have no problems if its a builtfat 18 percent bodyfat. Some fat but descent amount of muscle underneath it.
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Lostsoul85 said:
you see i have no problems if its a builtfat 18 percent bodyfat. Some fat but descent amount of muscle underneath it.


Regardless of the specific numbers
Would you say overalll i am a solidly built and muscular 15-20% or Skinnyfat 15-20%?

Be honest in your criticism.
Yes for your height, you are pretty solidly built. Just get those arms and traps bigger and you will be much more aesthetic.
 

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I'd say 15-17 or so...not under 15, not seeing any abs, usuallyb under 15 you will start seeing some abs
 

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cordoncordon said:
Just to add to this. Your arms and traps are a real weak point. It is giving kind of a square, boxy look with sticks coming out of your body. Don't get me wrong, it is better than most.

For your arms, do this. My arms grew an inch in a month from this, and I am wayyyyyy older than you. Either right before you go to bed or when you are done at the gym as your last exercise, get 2 15 pound dumbbells. First do 100 skullcrushers while laying down on the ground with each dumbbell. Then get right up, sit on your knees, and do 60 hammer curls. Take a one minute break, and do it again. And then one more time. So 3 sets of each. Trust me by the time you are done (should take about 10-15 minutes) your arms will be more pumped that you have ever felt them. And oh yeah, do that EVERY day for at least 1.5-2 months. :) Maybe take a Sunday off. After a month or two, cut it back do doing it about 3 times a week. Anymore than that and you risk injury. It really takes a toll on your arms.

For your traps? I would recommend this. Take a 20-30 pound dumbbell in each arm, and first to a forward raise so the dumbbell comes straight out in front of you. Then do the other arm. Then using both arms, do a lateral raise and remember to 'pour' at the top of the move so it looks like you are pointing your thumbs downwards. Do that twice a week.
I second this and also, He needs more delt/shoulder work. Arms definitely need work.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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