"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Is there any scenario where a girl could cheat on you and you'd say it wasn't her fault? Is there one where you'd say it's your fault she cheated?

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We're all aware of the old stereotype that when a woman cheats it's the man's fault for not being man enough for her and satisfying her needs or whatever, and we're all red pill enough to know that that's bullsh!t. Either because it's rarely the reason girls cheat (except in sh!tty marriages) and because that's not how you deal with relationship issues as a responsible adult in the first place.

But it always had me thinking, is there ever a scenario where cheating could be the fault of someone other than the cheater? And in that scenario, what would you do? What should you do?

the only scenario could come up with is:

You talk her into a terrible idea and it backfires, like you convince her to take a job as a masseuse or a stripper in a place you know to be dirty/seedy/shady and she ends up giving happy endings.

I saw a sitcom once where a fat guy convinces his sexy wife to pretend to be single and date a cop to lead him on so that the cop would drop the parking/speeding ticket he gave her since they didn't want to pay it. And my thought the whole time was "why would a fat UPS driver want his way out of his league wife to get 1 on 1 date time with a cop? How could that possibly go well?"

Disclaimer: this whole thing is a theoretical thought experiment, if you get cheated on call her a wh0re and dump her, DO NOT bother to evaluate fault
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Yes. If you withhold sex from her. Then, you cant get mad she gets it from another source, assuming shes your woman.
That's true lmao, would be hilarious to hear a story about a man withholding sex from a woman though
 

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That's true lmao, would be hilarious to hear a story about a man withholding sex from a woman though
I know of several cases like this, where the wife wants it and the husband doesn't. Think Al Bundy.

I'd say unless you are cheating yourself, or if you are pimping her out, it's on her.
 

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Yes. If you withhold sex from her. Then, you cant get mad she gets it from another source, assuming shes your woman.
I was going to say NO, but this is a valid reason; I guess I had not considered it since it is so ridiculous for a heterosexual man to withhold sex - at least if it were not that his wife became a cow.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I was going to say NO, but this is a valid reason; I guess I had not considered it since it is so ridiculous for a heterosexual man to withhold sex - at least if it were not that his wife became a cow.
Again, think of Al Bundy. Many men tire of their wives sexually. What if the man becomes impotent? Does that give her carte blanche to then go bang whoever she wants?
 

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What if the man becomes impotent? Does that give her carte blanche to then go bang whoever she wants?
...yeah pretty much.

If my wife decided to go on some new medication that kills her sex drive i sure as **** wouldn't take a vow of celibacy that she decided for me.
 

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If my wife decided to go on some new medication that kills her sex drive i sure as **** wouldn't take a vow of celibacy that she decided for me.
I'm admittedly old fashioned, but I'm not comfortable with cheating. If you have problems you can't work out, then I would say you should divorce. But that's also breaking your vows, so it's a lose-lose situation.
 

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Only if she was raped or abused. Other than that, there is no reason to cheat. Anyone can end a relationship before they get intimate with another person. They are often just too much of a coward to do so...
 

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Your stereotype is rubbish, are you educated beyond high school? Just curious.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I was going to say NO, but this is a valid reason; I guess I had not considered it since it is so ridiculous for a heterosexual man to withhold sex - at least if it were not that his wife became a cow.
Lol. Well, some people on Prozac or meds cant have sex while on meds. If you watch A beautiful mind, with Russel Crowe they touch on this subject.
 

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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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If a partner withholds sex it's not easy to just end a marriage that may have kids. I can see cheating occurring before the nerve to end the relationship occurs.
 

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Women want it a bad, mate. Actually they often have insatiable drives that is hard to keep up with. Don't other female species just wear the man out and then eat him? That's what a good relationship feels like.
Can't relate ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ I wonder what that's like lol, sounds nice
 

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P0rn addicts will lose sexual interest, that's the typical situation where a woman could be justified to cheat.
So if a guy looks at a naked woman on the internet, his wife is justified in cheating?
No wonder the divorce rate is so high lol.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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