Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Okay... Friday night I got to know this girl really well and found her interesting and we had good chemistry so since it was cold outside I kino'd and she instantly took it well and I kept her warm that night.

That night/next day/day after she talks to ME without me talking to HER first. So... I keep her interested and I C+F her which she enjoys. We've been good but I noticed today that she was "running" away... Or just leaving the area I am in.

Did I do something wrong? Or is it just coincidence that she had to leave INSTANTLY in a strange way more than once... Too much pressure?

It's been bugging me all day and I really need to get this off my chest. Thanks fellas.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Docs said:
How about the...don't worry about it, try again another day line??
How about we help him analyze, so he can learn. You should know better doc.:down:

Bambino, can you explain further what types of routines/c&f/method you used? We need detail to give you useful advice.

Take care,

Carlos Xuma
 

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The c+f and "playful teasing" she took really WELL.

She happened to be a little ill with a cold or small cough and I was kidding with her by me avoiding her or covering my mouth+nose everytime I saw/heard her cough and I just hear her laugh and smile. She chases me around trying to get me sick and all that... Just playful. I thought it went well cuz when I put my arm around her waist she took it well and put her head on my while we were chillin with a couple buddies at a kickback.

Then later that night... we chill and hangout.. I take all the attention away from her and come back after a while without asking I put my hands around her hip/waist area and since there was no negative feedback I wrap my hands around her from the hip area. :cheer:

Okay for her running away.. I sadly initiated the hello and hug then she screams to her friend and runs towards her to their class/locker.. So... She's gotta just be a tease right?

I think I shouldn't have said anything to her.. I'm going to pull away right now.. I think I've been giving her too much attention.. Yeah?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I'm really not familiar with the pulling tactic.. Like whats a good way to do it cuz I happen to see her everyday cuz my friends are friends with her friends... So ya...
 

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You initially attracted her, the mistake a lot of new guys make is that they stay in "attraction" mode, and the girl gets bored. After you've attracted her, you need to build some rapport/comfort with her.
 

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Carlos Xuma said:
You initially attracted her, the mistake a lot of new guys make is that they stay in "attraction" mode, and the girl gets bored. After you've attracted her, you need to build some rapport/comfort with her.
do you have any examples of rapport/comfort?

yeah, i know i made a mistake by saying hello first... bah...
 
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