"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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is showing her your workplace a good idea ?

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It is obviously not a good idea for 1-3 dates. But I think it might not be a bad idea for 4th or etc. So on weekends our office is almost empty. I have full access there anytime. I once suggested a girl to show her my workplace. She liked the idea. I mean we can order a pizza , drinks. Watch a movie at the meeting room, etc. In case if someone comes in I can tell that we were discussing some new product etc. Consider the fact that she won't come to my apartment. Maybe later but not now. So it is one of a few places I can get private with her.
So is it a good idea or it will kill the mystery about you (me) ?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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It is obviously not a good idea for 1-3 dates. But I think it might not be a bad idea for 4th or etc. So on weekends our office is almost empty. I have full access there anytime. I once suggested a girl to show her my workplace. She liked the idea. I mean we can order a pizza , drinks. Watch a movie at the meeting room, etc. In case if someone comes in I can tell that we were discussing some new product etc. Consider the fact that she won't come to my apartment. Maybe later but not now. So it is one of a few places I can get private with her.
So is it a good idea or it will kill the mystery about you (me) ?
I'd keep my personal life separate from my professional life unless you guys have lived together for some time or she is your wife. B!tches be crazy.
 

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It is obviously not a good idea for 1-3 dates. But I think it might not be a bad idea for 4th or etc. So on weekends our office is almost empty. I have full access there anytime. I once suggested a girl to show her my workplace. She liked the idea. I mean we can order a pizza , drinks. Watch a movie at the meeting room, etc. In case if someone comes in I can tell that we were discussing some new product etc. Consider the fact that she won't come to my apartment. Maybe later but not now. So it is one of a few places I can get private with her.
So is it a good idea or it will kill the mystery about you (me) ?
To be honest it doesn't sound like the most exciting date. I think there comes a time when a woman may ask to see the place you work just out of interest. But I would wait for her to ask.
Also, if you split up with her and she can't get over it, you run the risk of her turning up at work and embarrassing you.
 

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You must not have enough experience with women to know how nutty or vindictive they can get ..

Example 1: Had a chick play on my phone for a week because I told her I wasnt interested anymore.

Example 2: Had a disagreement with a chick at her place. I said my piece calmly and left her there screaming at the top of her lungs.
She calls my job and tells them they should drug test me.


If you can avoid it, until she is your girlfriend don't even tell her your companies name..
Let alone sneak her in the building.
If I could afford it, id take every new plate to a hotel for at least the first couple months. They wouldn't even know where i live.

I'm even contemplating beginning to use a fake name..
 
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Thanks everyone for your answers. so the conclusion is that it is a Bad Idea )
 

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Sure, if you are within walking distance. You're probably better off showing a photo of your cubicle.
 

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No girls in the bat cave. Only on rare occasions.:D
 
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