Ok guys.. So I met this girl and we click well at first. We hung out a bit, she even introduced me to her best friend and we would go out occasionally. We would be in contact most of the week, sometimes I would message or call her first and sometimes she would do the same. Here's the deal, I had went out and bought her some chocolates, and we met up the next evening and I gave to her, we hugged and we messaged the same night. We had also planned to go out skating the next day. On the next day, all I got was a good morning which I replied to, then after that nothing from her.. She went blank.. I waited until a few days(2 days) then I messaged her to see if she was OK but still got no respond... So I haven't messaged her since and now it's been basically gonna be 2 weeks tomorrow.. Is there something wrong that I did or is she just not interested no more, I've always been over interested In past relationships but I've cooled down now and have been chilled for a few years now, so am not sure if I should reply or not reply.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Is she still interested or nah?
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
flowtheory
Master Don Juan
You already know the answer...
You didn’t evoke the right emotions in her on the date. Sounds like you played it as a friend - meeting her best friend and getting her chocolates. Meeting friends before you have sex with the woman is always a flag in my mind.
She could have had low interest from the start and used you for attention or something. Read around on the DJ bible and you’ll see for yourself and your own experience where you may have went wrong
You didn’t evoke the right emotions in her on the date. Sounds like you played it as a friend - meeting her best friend and getting her chocolates. Meeting friends before you have sex with the woman is always a flag in my mind.
She could have had low interest from the start and used you for attention or something. Read around on the DJ bible and you’ll see for yourself and your own experience where you may have went wrong
There's a lot you did wrong but we've all been there bro
1) Flowtheory is right, hanging out with friends is a redflag
2) You don't message or call her all the time
3) Never buy a woman anything. The gift is you and YOUR time
4) Stop hugging her. In future go for the kiss
5) Always wait for a woman to reply, if she doesn't then give up
Do you want the good news? This I have learned for myself-
All of this is reversible. Women CAN and DO change their mind if you start acting like a man
I've had women text me 6 months after I screwed up. Some of them never come back
There's nothing you can do except move on with your life
1) Flowtheory is right, hanging out with friends is a redflag
2) You don't message or call her all the time
3) Never buy a woman anything. The gift is you and YOUR time
4) Stop hugging her. In future go for the kiss
5) Always wait for a woman to reply, if she doesn't then give up
Do you want the good news? This I have learned for myself-
All of this is reversible. Women CAN and DO change their mind if you start acting like a man
I've had women text me 6 months after I screwed up. Some of them never come back
There's nothing you can do except move on with your life
K, I get that, it's not that I chase em cause I ain't got time for games. I tried talking to multiple women once and it was ok but, I just ain't like the idea. So is it that you're saying I should talk to more women instead of just 1?
I get what your saying but basically I went wrong, it was just a one time thing buying her some chocolates, I'm not the kinda guy that goes chasing down women as if am desperate, I met only 1 friend k and tbh, I just ain't sure if I should message her or not,
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
I ain't know the answer, if I did I wouldn't be here bro.
lamath
Master Don Juan
tl/dr
Just by title short anwser is no.
When you got to ask yoursellf this question its because she is low intereat at best.
She probably met someone else and put you on the back burner.
Dont be an orbiter, go xomplete ghost.
IRRationalProgrammer
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Yes always have more than one option. Keeps you from overthinking and keeps it easier to move on.
You got ma point, that's the same thing I said to maself, why would she disappear after me just buying some chocolates. I ain't messaging either.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Fo real bro
She never went quiet because you bought her some silly chocolates. She went quiet because her body wasn’t pumping out dopamine and oxytocin. Now you need to know how to get them things flowing. So don’t be so hard on yourself wondering if you was too nice. It wasn’t the chocolates. It was just her biology and chemistry saying no.
Don’t worry about it. One of my plates has stopped contacting me and I know exactly why. She cane over last Saturday and we were going to have sex but she forgot to tell me she had a damn cold or sinuses or whatever. She was all stopped up and being a mouth breather and it was just a turnoff. So we didn’t do anything but hangout and makeout some but not hot and heavy like we usually do. She’s gone cold this week and hardly text me at all and that’s probably why. Oh well if she comes back good, if not I won’t die.
Yea, for real. I don't know why they feel like men are supposed to chase em down as if we are that desperate yo, it's stupid what they make most men do bro.. But I ain't Fallin for non of em bs
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Thanks bro, you get me.It's OK to buy somethings for a girl , don't dwell too much on whatever she not replying or ghosted you. Do your own things n keep spinning plates and things will come to you
Dash Riprock
Master Don Juan
You're a young guy so you're learning. We've all made a ton of mistakes early on.
Regarding your situation, the chocolates weren't the kiss of death but I would hold off on gifts of any sort this early. It says "too nice/nice guy" which you don't want to be. Understand she's also young like you probably with a lot of options and young women are notoriously flaky so it doesn't take much for them to vanish. BUT, the biggest thing you need to correct is not going in for the kill (kissing her) and limiting the affection to hugging which screams FRIEND. Don't chase either, which is a huge attraction killer. I would go complete NC and let her come to you. Great if she does and if not, no problem, next batter up. Just learn from your biggest two errors: gift buying too early (too nice) and not escalating sexually (low T, lacking confidence, beta).
Good luck.
Regarding your situation, the chocolates weren't the kiss of death but I would hold off on gifts of any sort this early. It says "too nice/nice guy" which you don't want to be. Understand she's also young like you probably with a lot of options and young women are notoriously flaky so it doesn't take much for them to vanish. BUT, the biggest thing you need to correct is not going in for the kill (kissing her) and limiting the affection to hugging which screams FRIEND. Don't chase either, which is a huge attraction killer. I would go complete NC and let her come to you. Great if she does and if not, no problem, next batter up. Just learn from your biggest two errors: gift buying too early (too nice) and not escalating sexually (low T, lacking confidence, beta).
Good luck.
So hey guys, I kinda called her........
So here's the deal, i was on whatsapp and saw her post then decided to view, I saw it was her sis that is sick and in the hospital, I tried calling but it only went to voice mail so I left a message saying I hope her sis gets well, what do yall think?. Ps. I only called once then left the message
So here's the deal, i was on whatsapp and saw her post then decided to view, I saw it was her sis that is sick and in the hospital, I tried calling but it only went to voice mail so I left a message saying I hope her sis gets well, what do yall think?. Ps. I only called once then left the message
Bro, stop it. You are wasting your time. You lost her when you bought her chocolates. We have all been there, bought a girl roses three weeks in and boom she vanished. Thank god those blue pill days are over.
Ok, just you know, thought it'd be cool to show some sympathy as she had someone in the hospital
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.