Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Serialized3 said:http://roissy.wordpress.com/2008/08/26/quality-girl
edit: also http://roissy.wordpress.com/2008/12/29/its-easy-to-identify-a-slut/
The last one, by far, is the most important. There are girls in just their slightest mannerisms and looks, that almost cannot be described, give them away as women who've been to more than their share of rodeos.
Your gut is NOT a sensitive organ, when it senses something, you better listen.
:crackup:Solomon said:Ironic that the author claims black women are more promiscuous when in the black community black men go after the white women for their promiscuity, I'm still looking for the black edition of "Girls Gone Wild" it's been 7 years and they still haven't made it
In college the it wasn't the black girls sucking of the athletes etc or getting knocked up
Hey can' get mad at me
"Its my experience"
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Im white, and I agree with you :/bish0p said::crackup:
Yeah, it's funny isn't it?
I hear these same stereotypes about white girls ALL THE TIME (and seen it) and yet, the negative stereotypes always manage to find its way back to black people somehow....like we're the only ethnic group that can do wrong.
I mean, all you have to do is go to the club and who do you see making out in clubs? White girls. Who are the girls that are jumping on the bar, taking their shirts off and shaking their titties? White girls. Who are the girls sexually dancing and making out with other girls just to get attention from the guys? White girls.
I have never seen black girls or any other girls from other ethnic groups, besides white girls, do these things. I've never even heard stories of black girls being as slutty as white girls.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Agreed...I just don't see the point of writers that single out one group of people and not others for no reason.Danger said:I disagree with both the commenters and the OP link.
White girls can be horrendous sluts as shown in the Clubs by making out with others, whilst Black girls are hardly to be found in the Clubs.
However, that does not mean they are not sluts, just sluts of a different brand. What I do see from my experience is that a larger number of black women have kids from multiple daddies.
There are different ways to measure sluttiness.
http://www.idph.state.il.us/public/respect/african_american_fs.htmSolomon said:Ironic that the author claims black women are more promiscuous when in the black community black men go after the white women for their promiscuity, I'm still looking for the black edition of "Girls Gone Wild" it's been 7 years and they still haven't made it
In college the it wasn't the black girls sucking of the athletes etc or getting knocked up
Hey can' get mad at me
"Its my experience"
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I have never seen a black girl make out with another girl and I've been going to clubs for ages. I co-sign that list, it probably happens but I sure ain't seen itbish0p said::crackup:
Yeah, it's funny isn't it?
I hear these same stereotypes about white girls ALL THE TIME (and seen it) and yet, the negative stereotypes always manage to find its way back to black people somehow....like we're the only ethnic group that can do wrong.
I mean, all you have to do is go to the club and who do you see making out in clubs? White girls. Who are the girls that are jumping on the bar, taking their shirts off and shaking their titties? White girls. Who are the girls sexually dancing and making out with other girls just to get attention from the guys? White girls.
I have never seen black girls or any other girls from other ethnic groups, besides white girls, do these things. I've never even heard stories of black girls being as slutty as white girls.
You got facts I'll give you that, not gonna argue with those numbers but you forget numnuts that African Americans are only 12% of the population so even though the numbers may be double or higher, whites still beat us out in most of those categorizes, while percentage wise blacks dominate. On top of that African-American men(not all) are still on the downlow so a women could be sleeping with a Bigjimbo(gay guy who sleeps with women) and not know it, hence the STD contraction goes up.BigJimbo said:http://www.idph.state.il.us/public/respect/african_american_fs.htm
Wow, how wrong you are. Explain these facts? Some of you like to make up strange stories.
Solomon definitely hates whites and Asians. He sends me posts poking fun of Asians (he thinks I am one).
Try to make an investment decision just based on your gut. Doesn't work so well. You need to take into account more than just your "gut" feeling.SamTheHobit said:Your gut is NOT a sensitive organ, when it senses something, you better listen.
Slut for you, slut for me, sluts for everybody! What's the problem? Just don't be stupid and get attached, also clean your slut before use because you don't know where she's been.I agree 100 percent. This must be the best slut defence!! Unless of course your into sluts :/
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
90% of american women would fall under one of those categories.DJ Logic said:- Excessive swearing
- Skimpy clothes (I am NOT a wh0re even though I dress like one)
- Excessive makeup
- More guy than girl friends
- Little to no resistance even though we just met
- Doesn't insist on a condom
- Poor hygiene
- Careless attitude
- Drinking/drugs
- Psychological problems (NPD, BPD, schizo, sociopath)
This is gold!Razor Sharp said:FWIW, if you have to ask yourself this question at any point, then there is a 90% chance that the answer is "yes". A good woman will leave very little margin for doubt as to her true character.
Danger said:Numbers mean nothing. It's all about the percentages.
F*cking numbers, how do the work?!Solomon said:Aren't Numbers and Percentages the same thing?
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Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Sluts are dirty and have STD's =/The Assistant said:only virgins and haters consider certain girls sluts.......she's as much of a slut as YOU are a hateful jealous virgin.
Get rid of the word slut from your vocabulary dummy, that word does not help ANY guy get laid.
There lack of morals and the disease that they spread get to me. =/Huffman said:Aren't you the guy who thinks he's gonna die a virgin? I don't want to insult you, but it means that up to now, you've only seen the negative side of things, but never the positive. And you sound like one of those people who blindly and needlessly hate on sluts. Girls are so horribly afraid of being labeled sluts because of that. People hate what they can't handle!
I mean hey, where's the problem? Are "sluts" deceiving you? Do they punch you or rob you? No, they're just sluts, so if you don't like them stay away from them.
On the other hand, if you meet a loose girl and you can see her for what she is - goddamn have some fun!
Then think about the people on this board, the ones that are successful - they have the same lack of morals (and sometimes disease? haha). Does it get to you?SamTheHobit said:There lack of morals and the disease that they spread get to me. =/
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.