is she a escort or something? or not?

[pyros]

Hello there,

I met this 34 years old very very cute mexican woman some weeks ago in a salsa club, she was there with some of her salsa friends from the dancing school. We talked, we danced, etc, I got her number, she seemed interested.
I sent her a message she replied, we had some conversation, then she disappeared for two days, appeared again saying sorry busy with work etc. she then told me she got divorced 8 months or so ago, she has two children, splits the time with the dad etc.
I asked about her job, and she said: "she does some online clinical psyco therapy, for one hour with each "consultant", where they express to her their anxiety, stress, etc". Ok. She asked me some questions as well, what do I do for work, if I have kids, etc etc.

Well, I suggested to meet etc for some drinks, she agreed with enthusiasm, and we have our date tomorrow night.

The thing is that before arranging our date, for the two previous weeks she had this whatsapp very cute picture of herself, in the beach, sunset, very nice. BUT, yesterday, one day before our incoming date, she changed her picture to another in which she looks completely like a scort/onlyfans or something: long black boots, sexy black dress, sitting on her bed, and taking a pic of herself with the cellphone while hiding her face with the cellphone. This triggered all the alarms for me. Then I decided to ask her slighly abut the picture to see her reply:
me: "hey, what a sexy picture, what a change, right?"
her: "hi Pyros, I just felt like changing it"
me: "I see, well, ok, see you tomorrow, get some rest"
her: "yes! see you tomorrow, good night )"

Her current picture is not very appropiate to have it for your "normal" whatsapp contacts. Does she have two phone numbers? one for normal family etc, and another for "guys"?

Opinions? how to handle it? if she's a scort or she wants money for sex, she is not for me. But then why agree to a date? If she's in onlyfans or something like it, but wants to get to know me etc, she's fine for only sex.

 

[corrector]

I asked about her job, and she said: "she does some online clininical psyco therapy, for one hour with each "consultant", where they express to her their anxiety, stress, etc". Ok. She asked me some questions as well, what do I do for work, if I have kids, etc etc.

You are seeing a lady who works as a shrink.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

She's not a scort if she works online. I bet this chick is trying to get you to chase and is being coy about it. Typical latina/catholic woman behavior. Trying to appear a "mystery woman" and not realizing she's coming across as a pain in the @ss.

She agreed with "enthusiasm" because she's desirous of your attention and hopefully hard work. ("hopefully" from her perspective)

If nothing else OP thanks for the word "Scort". Takes the bullsh1t sheen off of the transaction and gives it the proper dose of vulgarity. Like a combination of "squirt" and "snort".

OP why don't you put on your most ridiculous outfit and use it as your whatsapp pic. This chick needs a proper trolling, so get to it man.

Remember this chick is 34 and recently divorced (but not horny since this is her epiphany phase and she's catholic) and is testing the waters to see what she can get away with. And since she's Mexican she's starry eyed about snagging a dreamy gringo, and lapping up the attention of the runners-up.

If you do get in her pants, 20 bucks says she's either a starfish in bed or demonstrably and unnecessarily loud. These chicks just can't have sex like normal women and enjoy the act without hangups.

Next time you go out, get some Tylenol if you don't have some at home. If you continue to engage with this chick she will be a headache. Already she's inspired a post (as opposed to a boner).

 

[Solomon]

Who knows? you're better of trying to do a google reverse image search, also skip tracing her phone number, use AI it helps

Regardless if you gotta do all that....

 

[BaronOfHair]

I met this 34 years old very very cute mexican woman...

Likelihood of her being an escort is on par with Syria's chances of becoming the Switzerland of The Near East before this week is up. Relax

 

[SW15]

I met this 34 years old very very cute mexican woman some weeks ago in a salsa club.... We talked, we danced, etc, I got her number, she seemed interested.I sent her a message she replied, we had some conversation, then she disappeared for two days, appeared again saying sorry busy with work etc. she then told me she got divorced 8 months or so ago, she has two children, splits the time with the dad etc.
I asked about her job, and she said: "she does some online clinical psyco therapy, for one hour with each "consultant", where they express to her their anxiety, stress, etc". Ok. She asked me some questions as well, what do I do for work, if I have kids, etc etc.

It's very unlikely that this woman is an escort. This seems like a divorced Hispanic woman. She might also be overeducated if she is in psychotherapy. In the USA, mental health professionals have advanced degrees (either master's or doctorate level degrees).

Women with more than a bachelor's degree usually do not make good girlfriends.

If you are a childless man, a woman with 2 children under 18 is usually a poor fit longer term. It's not even a good shorter term option. Try to focus on childless women. At least she's younger than you are.

 

[Clockwerk50]

I used to talk to this girl, and on her WhatsApp and Instagram, she behaved pretty erratically. She would sometimes delete all the pictures on her Instagram, then bring some back, delete stories, and send random videos of her. It was all over the place.

On WhatsApp, when we were texting, she’d occasionally leave me on read for a few days. Other times, she'd start talking to someone else, things would fall through. When this happened, she would re-engage eventually in the conversation like nothing happened, and sometimes, right in the middle of it, she'd suddenly send me a racy picture.

Also, she would change her profile picture constantly with selfies, bikini pics, you name it. The weirdest part was when she was feeling depressed or sad she would delete her profile picture entirely. That made everyone in her contacts think she had blocked them, so they’d all start texting her out of concern.

Case in point: some women struggle with insecurity and have a hard time managing their emotions. When she changes her picture like that, I think she might be looking for attention, whether from you or from another guy. Maybe she’s trying to charm you, so don’t be afraid to be charmed by her or of her charm.

As for her occupation, I’d definitely ask more questions. For all we know, she could be on cam sites or OnlyFans. You know how hospital janitors sometimes call themselves “Environmental Services Workers”? It could be one of those situations.

 

[pyros]

well, she canceled our date for tonight. Wrote a large paragraph saying "she's very sorry, but she is sick blah blah, she may need to go to the doctor, I am very sorry, bla bla, let me make it up to you on Sunday, I'll pay for lunch in some nice restaurant, I'm sorry. Does it sound good? I am very ashamed I have to cancel after I postponed this date already once".

I said it was ok, no problem, take care, made some joke, she made some jokes too. I said I prefer to do same night plan but next Tuesday, she said "that sounds good, and this time I'll be there no matter what, rain, thunder or tsunami."

We'll see.

 

[corrector]

well, she canceled our date for tonight.

Sometimes you jinyx things when you talk about it too much.

 

[Clockwerk50]

well, she canceled our date for tonight. Wrote a large paragraph saying "she's very sorry, but she is sick blah blah, she may need to go to the doctor, I am very sorry, bla bla, let me make it up to you on Sunday, I'll pay for lunch in some nice restaurant, I'm sorry. Does it sound good? I am very ashamed I have to cancel after I postponed this date already once".

I said it was ok, no problem, take care, made some joke, she made some jokes too. I said I prefer to do same night plan but next Tuesday, she said "that sounds good, and this time I'll be there no matter what, rain, thunder or tsunami."

We'll see.

 

[pyros]

So we finally met. I went to pick her up, then we drove to some cute restaurant to grab a bite, and I was actually surprised that we had a lot of conversation, cracked some jokes etc, she told me about her life, asked me a few questions etc. When the check came, she wanted to pay half, but I invited her anyway. Then we went for a drink, to a nice ****tail bar, she wanted something without alcohol ok. We kep the nice conversation, laughs etc, in the middle I asked something about her parfume, she then removed her hair so I could smell her neck, so I did, and I also did a micro kiss on her neck because she kind of moved away a bit. Ok. I kept as nothing, we kept having some laughs etc, I caressed her shoulder and hair a couple of times too. When the check came she wanted to pay, so in this case, I accepted.

What annoyed me a bit is eventhough we were having fun, she yawned a little two times (ok, it was 23:00 on a Tuesday).
Then I drove her home, but the moment we arrived to her place I pulled in a bit, and she gave me no time, and she then grabbed her stuff pretty quickly, opened the door very quickly, gave me two kisses as goodbye, and told me to text her when I got home, so she just left the car like a rocket in order to avoid me trying to kiss her I guess. Ok...

When I got home I did not text her because meh, and she did not write or anything.

I'd like to meet her on the weekend for a drink and dancing and to escalate things, and she told me that next week she will have two female friends coming and they willl go on a trip for a week.

She seems with a medium or medium-low interest, either because of her chaotic life at the moment, or because she's not so into me. Anyway, it would not be the first neither the second time I meet a girl with not so much interest, but it ends up in sex anyway, sometimes it doesnt happen of course.

Thoughts? ideas? tips?

Thanks.

 

[Westminster]

You said it, she's medium or even low interest.

You could pursue, but a low interest 34 year old with kids and a chaotic lifestyle? Is the juice worth the squeeze?

 

[Clockwerk50]

If you want to see her again, send her a text the day before her trip with the main purpose of letting her know that you'd like to see her again, that you hope she has a nice trip, and to let you know once she gets back if she's interested in meeting up one more time. I'd leave it at that.

If you don’t want to see her again, don’t message her. If she reaches out, respond slowly and keep your replies dry.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Stop overanalyzing things and meet up with her.

 

[pipeman84]

We kep the nice conversation, laughs etc, in the middle I asked something about her parfume, she then removed her hair so I could smell her neck, so I did, and I also did a micro kiss on her neck because she kind of moved away a bit.

Then I drove her home, but the moment we arrived to her place I pulled in a bit, and she gave me no time, and she then grabbed her stuff pretty quickly, opened the door very quickly, gave me two kisses as goodbye, and told me to text her when I got home, so she just left the car like a rocket in order to avoid me trying to kiss her I guess. Ok...

I'd like to meet her on the weekend for a drink and dancing and to escalate things, and she told me that next week she will have two female friends coming and they willl go on a trip for a week.

WTF man, can't you get a clue, she's not into you. Why do you still insist on meeting her again?
Plus, she's a 34yrs old divorcee with 2 kids. It's pretty hard to get more desperate and beta than this.

 

[MatureDJ]

Hello there,

I met this 34 years old very very cute mexican woman some weeks ago in a salsa club, she was there with some of her salsa friends from the dancing school. We talked, we danced, etc, I got her number, she seemed interested.
I sent her a message she replied, we had some conversation, then she disappeared for two days, appeared again saying sorry busy with work etc. she then told me she got divorced 8 months or so ago, she has two children, splits the time with the dad etc.
I asked about her job, and she said: "she does some online clinical psyco therapy, for one hour with each "consultant", where they express to her their anxiety, stress, etc". Ok. She asked me some questions as well, what do I do for work, if I have kids, etc etc.

Well, I suggested to meet etc for some drinks, she agreed with enthusiasm, and we have our date tomorrow night.

The thing is that before arranging our date, for the two previous weeks she had this whatsapp very cute picture of herself, in the beach, sunset, very nice. BUT, yesterday, one day before our incoming date, she changed her picture to another in which she looks completely like a scort/onlyfans or something: long black boots, sexy black dress, sitting on her bed, and taking a pic of herself with the cellphone while hiding her face with the cellphone. This triggered all the alarms for me. Then I decided to ask her slighly abut the picture to see her reply:
me: "hey, what a sexy picture, what a change, right?"
her: "hi Pyros, I just felt like changing it"
me: "I see, well, ok, see you tomorrow, get some rest"
her: "yes! see you tomorrow, good night )"

Her current picture is not very appropiate to have it for your "normal" whatsapp contacts. Does she have two phone numbers? one for normal family etc, and another for "guys"?

Opinions? how to handle it? if she's a scort or she wants money for sex, she is not for me. But then why agree to a date? If she's in onlyfans or something like it, but wants to get to know me etc, she's fine for only sex.

She's a 'ho.

 

[MatureDJ]

It's very unlikely that this woman is an escort. This seems like a divorced Hispanic woman. She might also be overeducated if she is in psychotherapy. In the USA, mental health professionals have advanced degrees (either master's or doctorate level degrees).

Women with more than a bachelor's degree usually do not make good girlfriends.

If you are a childless man, a woman with 2 children under 18 is usually a poor fit longer term. It's not even a good shorter term option. Try to focus on childless women. At least she's younger than you are.

Childless women are MUCH harder to get.

 

[SW15]

Childless women are MUCH harder to get.

That's an extremely beta male thing to say.

That said, many sexless, childless beta males will pursue a single mom because they think she's easier to get.

The single mom has more in common with the single dad than the childless AFC/incel. I think the single dad-single mom pairing is more common than the childless AFC/borderline incel-single mom pairing.

Due to an increase in male thirst, single moms are often heavily pursued.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

So we finally met. I went to pick her up, then we drove to some cute restaurant to grab a bite, and I was actually surprised that we had a lot of conversation, cracked some jokes etc, she told me about her life, asked me a few questions etc. When the check came, she wanted to pay half, but I invited her anyway. Then we went for a drink, to a nice ****tail bar, she wanted something without alcohol ok. We kep the nice conversation, laughs etc, in the middle I asked something about her parfume, she then removed her hair so I could smell her neck, so I did, and I also did a micro kiss on her neck because she kind of moved away a bit. Ok. I kept as nothing, we kept having some laughs etc, I caressed her shoulder and hair a couple of times too. When the check came she wanted to pay, so in this case, I accepted.

What annoyed me a bit is eventhough we were having fun, she yawned a little two times (ok, it was 23:00 on a Tuesday).
Then I drove her home, but the moment we arrived to her place I pulled in a bit, and she gave me no time, and she then grabbed her stuff pretty quickly, opened the door very quickly, gave me two kisses as goodbye, and told me to text her when I got home, so she just left the car like a rocket in order to avoid me trying to kiss her I guess. Ok...

When I got home I did not text her because meh, and she did not write or anything.

I'd like to meet her on the weekend for a drink and dancing and to escalate things, and she told me that next week she will have two female friends coming and they willl go on a trip for a week.

She seems with a medium or medium-low interest, either because of her chaotic life at the moment, or because she's not so into me. Anyway, it would not be the first neither the second time I meet a girl with not so much interest, but it ends up in sex anyway, sometimes it doesnt happen of course.

Thoughts? ideas? tips?

Thanks.

Having fun does not equal wants to fvck you all the time.

 

[MatureDJ]

That's an extremely beta male thing to say.

That said, many sexless, childless beta males will pursue a single mom because they think she's easier to get.

The single mom has more in common with the single dad than the childless AFC/incel. I think the single dad-single mom pairing is more common than the childless AFC/borderline incel-single mom pairing.

Due to an increase in male thirst, single moms are often heavily pursued.

I haven't pursued single mommies (OK, I think I had dated a few based on extreme thirst at the time, but I couldn't go through with a 2nd date with any of them) - but for a long time, there only seemed to be 2 types of women out in the social world - fat childless chicks, and decent-looking single mommies. My answer to that situation was to PassportBroMax.