Doctor Europeo
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Was talking about this with my cousin and he says it's not possible. What do you think?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Is it possible to break up with a gf without her crying?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
TheMonkeyKing
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If you're a masculine man and she's a feminine woman, probably not.
Serenity
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It's possible, but it depends on the circumstances surrounding the break up and how she deals with it. Even if they wanted it to end they could still cry, it kinda hurts thinking about the time wasted just to end with nothing.
QuadDeuces
Master Don Juan
I spoke to my ex on the phone yesterday, she was sobbing like crazy.
While she was the one who had the magic revelation that we should break up.
While she was the one who had the magic revelation that we should break up.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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I think her tears are tools and should be ignored unless you purposely engineered them
mrgoodstuff
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Probably one of her friends helped her with that mindset.
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If a tree falls in the woods and there is nobody around to hear it, does it make a sound?
Don't stick around to discuss or see her cry.
"Sorry, this isn't working out and I need to move on and explore other avenues. Take care" - with a smile on your face. Then leave. No discussion. Especially if it was her idea.
Then you drive off, delete her off social media and block her number. Then start hitting up plates. Start fvcking immediately.
Crying at that point doesn't exist. The decision has been made. You're not there to see it.
Don't stick around to discuss or see her cry.
"Sorry, this isn't working out and I need to move on and explore other avenues. Take care" - with a smile on your face. Then leave. No discussion. Especially if it was her idea.
Then you drive off, delete her off social media and block her number. Then start hitting up plates. Start fvcking immediately.
Crying at that point doesn't exist. The decision has been made. You're not there to see it.