Doctor Europeo
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Was talking about this with my cousin and he says it's not possible. What do you think?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Is it possible to break up with a gf without her crying?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
TheMonkeyKing
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If you're a masculine man and she's a feminine woman, probably not.
Serenity
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It's possible, but it depends on the circumstances surrounding the break up and how she deals with it. Even if they wanted it to end they could still cry, it kinda hurts thinking about the time wasted just to end with nothing.
QuadDeuces
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I spoke to my ex on the phone yesterday, she was sobbing like crazy.
While she was the one who had the magic revelation that we should break up.
While she was the one who had the magic revelation that we should break up.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
beforeimgone
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I think her tears are tools and should be ignored unless you purposely engineered them
mrgoodstuff
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Probably one of her friends helped her with that mindset.
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If a tree falls in the woods and there is nobody around to hear it, does it make a sound?
Don't stick around to discuss or see her cry.
"Sorry, this isn't working out and I need to move on and explore other avenues. Take care" - with a smile on your face. Then leave. No discussion. Especially if it was her idea.
Then you drive off, delete her off social media and block her number. Then start hitting up plates. Start fvcking immediately.
Crying at that point doesn't exist. The decision has been made. You're not there to see it.
Don't stick around to discuss or see her cry.
"Sorry, this isn't working out and I need to move on and explore other avenues. Take care" - with a smile on your face. Then leave. No discussion. Especially if it was her idea.
Then you drive off, delete her off social media and block her number. Then start hitting up plates. Start fvcking immediately.
Crying at that point doesn't exist. The decision has been made. You're not there to see it.