"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Is it possible to be nice without being a nice guy?

habdragon08

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Im just not a jerk, I cant do it

I am nice to people, but dont allow them to walk over me

I DEFINITELY DO NOT fit the nice guy description on this site, but I dont fit the jerk decsription either.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Docs

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You can be nice. Just don't get her to expect it, you have to play them game, learn the rules and then BEND them to work for you.

Once you break rules..well..then you've crossed the line, right?

Understandy?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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DJ4Real

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You can be nice...sometimes...not all the time.

Basically, you can be nice....but have lots of backbone to back it up.
 

six-foot AZN '05

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Niceness is all about perception. If she thinks you're nice that's fine. If her friends think that you're nice, that's fine. Even if you think you are nice, that's okay. But if your guy friends say that you are being too nice then hold back a bit. Usually only your friends will see what is happening and tell you in english, not womenese.
 

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Being nice is okay, as long as it is on your own terms. You have to pump in the element of surprise. For example, if she tells you she likes chocolates and asks you to buy some for her, dont, at least not till the next time you all meet. Even at that time, you dont have to like buy top grade chocolates and wrap them up in gold paper or something. Offer her some of the chocolates that you are eating, do make sure they are of substantial quality. show her that you know how to pamper yourself. That's not a really good example because i know you are asking about the general behaviour and not just specific incidents but i hope you do get the idea.

To sum my post up, be nice, but never supplicating.
 

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Hold on,guys..

He said he's not a jerk in anyway.Then he said,he's nice but doesn't let people walk all over him.

Well,he fits the description of a pretty good DJ character-wise.Isn't a DJ somewhere in between a jerk and a nice-guy?

Am I missing something in here?
 

snobby

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adit said:
Hold on,guys..

He said he's not a jerk in anyway.Then he said,he's nice but doesn't let people walk all over him.

Well,he fits the description of a pretty good DJ character-wise.Isn't a DJ somewhere in between a jerk and a nice-guy?

Am I missing something in here?
you took the words right out of my mouth. Jerks dont attract women lol. Some do, but women dont like jerks, but they dont like a nice guy either. They just want a man in control. And if no woman cant take over you, then your good.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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chevypimpen

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I think it boils down to your definition of nice
AFC- Buying everything for her especially when you think you've screwed up
and are trying to buy her back (which buy the way promotes a *****y attitude from her) complimenting the piss **** out of everything she does
Don Juan- Opening doors, sparsly placed compliments, generally allowing her to spend time with such a great guy (you) but not taken ne bs off her:moon:
 
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