"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Is it possible to be nice without being a nice guy?

habdragon08

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Im just not a jerk, I cant do it

I am nice to people, but dont allow them to walk over me

I DEFINITELY DO NOT fit the nice guy description on this site, but I dont fit the jerk decsription either.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Docs

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You can be nice. Just don't get her to expect it, you have to play them game, learn the rules and then BEND them to work for you.

Once you break rules..well..then you've crossed the line, right?

Understandy?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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DJ4Real

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You can be nice...sometimes...not all the time.

Basically, you can be nice....but have lots of backbone to back it up.
 

six-foot AZN '05

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Niceness is all about perception. If she thinks you're nice that's fine. If her friends think that you're nice, that's fine. Even if you think you are nice, that's okay. But if your guy friends say that you are being too nice then hold back a bit. Usually only your friends will see what is happening and tell you in english, not womenese.
 

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Being nice is okay, as long as it is on your own terms. You have to pump in the element of surprise. For example, if she tells you she likes chocolates and asks you to buy some for her, dont, at least not till the next time you all meet. Even at that time, you dont have to like buy top grade chocolates and wrap them up in gold paper or something. Offer her some of the chocolates that you are eating, do make sure they are of substantial quality. show her that you know how to pamper yourself. That's not a really good example because i know you are asking about the general behaviour and not just specific incidents but i hope you do get the idea.

To sum my post up, be nice, but never supplicating.
 

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Hold on,guys..

He said he's not a jerk in anyway.Then he said,he's nice but doesn't let people walk all over him.

Well,he fits the description of a pretty good DJ character-wise.Isn't a DJ somewhere in between a jerk and a nice-guy?

Am I missing something in here?
 

snobby

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adit said:
Hold on,guys..

He said he's not a jerk in anyway.Then he said,he's nice but doesn't let people walk all over him.

Well,he fits the description of a pretty good DJ character-wise.Isn't a DJ somewhere in between a jerk and a nice-guy?

Am I missing something in here?
you took the words right out of my mouth. Jerks dont attract women lol. Some do, but women dont like jerks, but they dont like a nice guy either. They just want a man in control. And if no woman cant take over you, then your good.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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chevypimpen

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I think it boils down to your definition of nice
AFC- Buying everything for her especially when you think you've screwed up
and are trying to buy her back (which buy the way promotes a *****y attitude from her) complimenting the piss **** out of everything she does
Don Juan- Opening doors, sparsly placed compliments, generally allowing her to spend time with such a great guy (you) but not taken ne bs off her:moon:
 
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