"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Is it possible to be nice without being a nice guy?

habdragon08

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Im just not a jerk, I cant do it

I am nice to people, but dont allow them to walk over me

I DEFINITELY DO NOT fit the nice guy description on this site, but I dont fit the jerk decsription either.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Docs

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You can be nice. Just don't get her to expect it, you have to play them game, learn the rules and then BEND them to work for you.

Once you break rules..well..then you've crossed the line, right?

Understandy?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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DJ4Real

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You can be nice...sometimes...not all the time.

Basically, you can be nice....but have lots of backbone to back it up.
 

six-foot AZN '05

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Niceness is all about perception. If she thinks you're nice that's fine. If her friends think that you're nice, that's fine. Even if you think you are nice, that's okay. But if your guy friends say that you are being too nice then hold back a bit. Usually only your friends will see what is happening and tell you in english, not womenese.
 

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Being nice is okay, as long as it is on your own terms. You have to pump in the element of surprise. For example, if she tells you she likes chocolates and asks you to buy some for her, dont, at least not till the next time you all meet. Even at that time, you dont have to like buy top grade chocolates and wrap them up in gold paper or something. Offer her some of the chocolates that you are eating, do make sure they are of substantial quality. show her that you know how to pamper yourself. That's not a really good example because i know you are asking about the general behaviour and not just specific incidents but i hope you do get the idea.

To sum my post up, be nice, but never supplicating.
 

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Hold on,guys..

He said he's not a jerk in anyway.Then he said,he's nice but doesn't let people walk all over him.

Well,he fits the description of a pretty good DJ character-wise.Isn't a DJ somewhere in between a jerk and a nice-guy?

Am I missing something in here?
 

snobby

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adit said:
Hold on,guys..

He said he's not a jerk in anyway.Then he said,he's nice but doesn't let people walk all over him.

Well,he fits the description of a pretty good DJ character-wise.Isn't a DJ somewhere in between a jerk and a nice-guy?

Am I missing something in here?
you took the words right out of my mouth. Jerks dont attract women lol. Some do, but women dont like jerks, but they dont like a nice guy either. They just want a man in control. And if no woman cant take over you, then your good.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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chevypimpen

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I think it boils down to your definition of nice
AFC- Buying everything for her especially when you think you've screwed up
and are trying to buy her back (which buy the way promotes a *****y attitude from her) complimenting the piss **** out of everything she does
Don Juan- Opening doors, sparsly placed compliments, generally allowing her to spend time with such a great guy (you) but not taken ne bs off her:moon:
 
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