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Just a question that me and a friend were discussing yesterday. We couldn't agree on it. My friend said yes, I said no.
Discuss?
Discuss?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
My other thread about liking friendly girls?Luke Skywalker said:This is retarded. What are you saying that love=sex? I dont think so.
I've also looked at your other thread. Are you starting to get soft or something?
Is your mother a girl? Does she love you? If she does, ummm... Well...~attrACTION~ said:...I can't see how a girl could experience love without having sex. Why is that retarded? ...
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
But his mother had sex with his father.Francisco d'Anconia said:Is your mother a girl? Does she love you? If she does, ummm... Well...
What about if the girl is a slvt or a ho that you are paying for? You may feel some sort of release, but how could that be love? Do you mean to qualify what you mean by sex?ThunderMaverick said:I think it's very true that you can't experience man-woman love without first having sex. Sex only tightens that bond. (By design of course). I mean a virgin can have love for someone, but without sex I think it's the kind of love you have for your close friends or family.
I didn't mean that kind of love. I meant loving a guy who is not family.Francisco d'Anconia said:Is your mother a girl? Does she love you? If she does, ummm... Well...
Yeah, that's basically what I meant.ThunderMaverick said:I think it's very true that you can't experience man-woman love without first having sex. Sex only tightens that bond. (By design of course). I mean a virgin can have love for someone, but without sex I think it's the kind of love you have for your close friends or family.
His mother's love for his father wasn't in question...Luke Skywalker said:But his mother had sex with his father.
Do you guys realize that there's a difference between love and lust?~attrACTION~ said:I didn't mean that kind of love. I meant loving a guy who is not family...
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Yes, I do realize that there's a difference. But what I'm saying is how can you have love (man and woman who are not family), without lust/sex? You can't really, or it can't be that deep.Francisco d'Anconia said:Do you guys realize that there's a difference between love and lust?
That is true for most males and that is what creates contention with women when you are in a relationship. Women typically need more than just sex to gain that level of feeling.~attrACTION~ said:... You can't really, or it can't be that deep.
Bingo!blueguy said:Sex makes you think that you have a connection deeper than you really do. In reality, it is just a bunch of drugs that you two are sharing. IF/when sex trails off, you're always bound to discover that the two of you don't have as much in common as you really thought...
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.