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Just a question that me and a friend were discussing yesterday. We couldn't agree on it. My friend said yes, I said no.
Discuss?
Discuss?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
My other thread about liking friendly girls?Luke Skywalker said:This is retarded. What are you saying that love=sex? I dont think so.
I've also looked at your other thread. Are you starting to get soft or something?
Is your mother a girl? Does she love you? If she does, ummm... Well...~attrACTION~ said:...I can't see how a girl could experience love without having sex. Why is that retarded? ...
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
But his mother had sex with his father.Francisco d'Anconia said:Is your mother a girl? Does she love you? If she does, ummm... Well...
What about if the girl is a slvt or a ho that you are paying for? You may feel some sort of release, but how could that be love? Do you mean to qualify what you mean by sex?ThunderMaverick said:I think it's very true that you can't experience man-woman love without first having sex. Sex only tightens that bond. (By design of course). I mean a virgin can have love for someone, but without sex I think it's the kind of love you have for your close friends or family.
I didn't mean that kind of love. I meant loving a guy who is not family.Francisco d'Anconia said:Is your mother a girl? Does she love you? If she does, ummm... Well...
Yeah, that's basically what I meant.ThunderMaverick said:I think it's very true that you can't experience man-woman love without first having sex. Sex only tightens that bond. (By design of course). I mean a virgin can have love for someone, but without sex I think it's the kind of love you have for your close friends or family.
His mother's love for his father wasn't in question...Luke Skywalker said:But his mother had sex with his father.
Do you guys realize that there's a difference between love and lust?~attrACTION~ said:I didn't mean that kind of love. I meant loving a guy who is not family...
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Yes, I do realize that there's a difference. But what I'm saying is how can you have love (man and woman who are not family), without lust/sex? You can't really, or it can't be that deep.Francisco d'Anconia said:Do you guys realize that there's a difference between love and lust?
That is true for most males and that is what creates contention with women when you are in a relationship. Women typically need more than just sex to gain that level of feeling.~attrACTION~ said:... You can't really, or it can't be that deep.
Bingo!blueguy said:Sex makes you think that you have a connection deeper than you really do. In reality, it is just a bunch of drugs that you two are sharing. IF/when sex trails off, you're always bound to discover that the two of you don't have as much in common as you really thought...
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.