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Just a question that me and a friend were discussing yesterday. We couldn't agree on it. My friend said yes, I said no.
Discuss?
Discuss?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
My other thread about liking friendly girls?Luke Skywalker said:This is retarded. What are you saying that love=sex? I dont think so.
I've also looked at your other thread. Are you starting to get soft or something?
Is your mother a girl? Does she love you? If she does, ummm... Well...~attrACTION~ said:...I can't see how a girl could experience love without having sex. Why is that retarded? ...
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
But his mother had sex with his father.Francisco d'Anconia said:Is your mother a girl? Does she love you? If she does, ummm... Well...
What about if the girl is a slvt or a ho that you are paying for? You may feel some sort of release, but how could that be love? Do you mean to qualify what you mean by sex?ThunderMaverick said:I think it's very true that you can't experience man-woman love without first having sex. Sex only tightens that bond. (By design of course). I mean a virgin can have love for someone, but without sex I think it's the kind of love you have for your close friends or family.
I didn't mean that kind of love. I meant loving a guy who is not family.Francisco d'Anconia said:Is your mother a girl? Does she love you? If she does, ummm... Well...
Yeah, that's basically what I meant.ThunderMaverick said:I think it's very true that you can't experience man-woman love without first having sex. Sex only tightens that bond. (By design of course). I mean a virgin can have love for someone, but without sex I think it's the kind of love you have for your close friends or family.
His mother's love for his father wasn't in question...Luke Skywalker said:But his mother had sex with his father.
Do you guys realize that there's a difference between love and lust?~attrACTION~ said:I didn't mean that kind of love. I meant loving a guy who is not family...
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Yes, I do realize that there's a difference. But what I'm saying is how can you have love (man and woman who are not family), without lust/sex? You can't really, or it can't be that deep.Francisco d'Anconia said:Do you guys realize that there's a difference between love and lust?
That is true for most males and that is what creates contention with women when you are in a relationship. Women typically need more than just sex to gain that level of feeling.~attrACTION~ said:... You can't really, or it can't be that deep.
Bingo!blueguy said:Sex makes you think that you have a connection deeper than you really do. In reality, it is just a bunch of drugs that you two are sharing. IF/when sex trails off, you're always bound to discover that the two of you don't have as much in common as you really thought...
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.