"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Is It Possible For A Virgin Girl To Experience Love?

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Just a question that me and a friend were discussing yesterday. We couldn't agree on it. My friend said yes, I said no.

Discuss?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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This is retarded. What are you saying that love=sex? I dont think so.
I've also looked at your other thread. Are you starting to get soft or something?
 

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Luke Skywalker said:
This is retarded. What are you saying that love=sex? I dont think so.
I've also looked at your other thread. Are you starting to get soft or something?
My other thread about liking friendly girls?

Anyway, I do think love and sex are related. I can't see how a girl could experience love without having sex. Why is that retarded? For a girl to be in love with a guy, they have to have sex in order to know if they truly want to be with him or not. Without sex, there's no reason for attachment. There's also no real connection.

On that note, that's why I think telling some guys to "marry only virgins" is bad advice. Because, sure you could marry a virgin, but more often than not I would bet it wouldn't work out. If she's never experienced love before, how will she know how to love?
 

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...I can't see how a girl could experience love without having sex. Why is that retarded? ...
Is your mother a girl? Does she love you? If she does, ummm... Well...
 

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If she's never experienced love before, how will she know how to love?


And on the other side of the coin you could say a non virgin has experienced love, but when it doesn't work out she takes a more cynical view of it. (I.E. women sleeping around to find "love") Her love for someone radiates less for another because she's already experienced the highs and lows of it.

Alot of that goes on around here. People mistake "LOVE" for lust also.

I think it's very true that you can't experience man-woman love without first having sex. Sex only tightens that bond. (By design of course). I mean a virgin can have love for someone, but without sex I think it's the kind of love you have for your close friends or family.

Sex is suppose to create a bond, but many people pervert it.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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ThunderMaverick said:
I think it's very true that you can't experience man-woman love without first having sex. Sex only tightens that bond. (By design of course). I mean a virgin can have love for someone, but without sex I think it's the kind of love you have for your close friends or family.
What about if the girl is a slvt or a ho that you are paying for? You may feel some sort of release, but how could that be love? Do you mean to qualify what you mean by sex?

Is it possible for a prostitute or a slvt sleeping with many guys to know what love means as compared to a virgin girl? What about a nun?
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Is your mother a girl? Does she love you? If she does, ummm... Well...
I didn't mean that kind of love. I meant loving a guy who is not family.

ThunderMaverick said:
I think it's very true that you can't experience man-woman love without first having sex. Sex only tightens that bond. (By design of course). I mean a virgin can have love for someone, but without sex I think it's the kind of love you have for your close friends or family.
Yeah, that's basically what I meant.
 

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But his mother had sex with his father.
His mother's love for his father wasn't in question...
 

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I didn't mean that kind of love. I meant loving a guy who is not family...
Do you guys realize that there's a difference between love and lust?

Here's a consideration, an man and woman meet and begin a relationship. Because of a medical condition of one of the two they are not able to to have sex (no, the little blue pill won't work and there is and untreatable pelvic or neurological problem). Would it be impossible for them to fall in love?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Do you guys realize that there's a difference between love and lust?
Yes, I do realize that there's a difference. But what I'm saying is how can you have love (man and woman who are not family), without lust/sex? You can't really, or it can't be that deep.
 

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Sex makes you think that you have a connection deeper than you really do. In reality, it is just a bunch of drugs that you two are sharing. IF/when sex trails off, you're always bound to discover that the two of you don't have as much in common as you really thought.

That's why it's fukking crazy to get married based on a relationship initiated sexually that's been only going on for a few months to a year. The majority of that relationship will be based on sex and all the other actions contained in it will be painted with that sex euphoria.

Personally, I do not equate sex with love. I agree with Francisisco on this one.
 

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This is all a moot point. Virgin girls are extinct.
 

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... You can't really, or it can't be that deep.
That is true for most males and that is what creates contention with women when you are in a relationship. Women typically need more than just sex to gain that level of feeling.

More times than not, unless that feeling is there first the sex will only sustain the relationship for a limited amount of time before the woman starts becoming bored and possible looking at other avenues to fulfill that need.
 

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Sex makes you think that you have a connection deeper than you really do. In reality, it is just a bunch of drugs that you two are sharing. IF/when sex trails off, you're always bound to discover that the two of you don't have as much in common as you really thought...
Bingo! :up:
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Yes - virgins actually love more since they are not blinded by sex and their feeling of love is not influenced by the flesh!

Sex brings the euphoric "illusion of love" - it is NOT love! As Thundermaverick said, sex is a bonding force but first you must have something greater than sex to hold you together when hardships come - love is that bonding force which is a greater force than sex!!

Love relates to the spirit of a person - sex deals with the physical flesh - the spirit is on a much higher plane than the aging flesh,whose worth is determined by our eyes! So sex is less appealing with your wife when she is 19 and 120 pounds versus 52 and 300 pounds. But she remains at a spiritual level the same loving, caring, giving person that she was at 19 as she is at 52!!
 
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