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Is it normal for most 1st dates to be a complete waste of time

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OP, you need to start analyzing what you are doing on these dates. If it happens once or twice then there is a chance some random bad luck is involved. When it keeps happening with many different women then you need to start looking at yourself as the problem because you are the only constant in the equation.

Start analyzing these dates and thinking about what is happening in them. I was having an issue when I first started going on dates again after an LTR where I was being overly sexual with women on first dates and had a long string of no 2nd dates. Probably 10 or 11 over a month period. I started to analyze what was happening and I started to relax with the sexual stuff a little and just sprinkle it in when opportunity arose and as soon as I started doing that I had 4 or 5 women wanting to see me again and I banged all of them eventually.

You have to be able to learn from what is happening in date and then try different approaches and tactics until you find what works for you. Then keep doing it. It can be frustrating but you will learn a lot about yourself. Now I am at the point where I am pretty successful on most first dates and the women want to see me again...I am probably hitting around 70-80% of good first dates now...confidence breeds confidence amd it becomes like a snowball rolling downhill. I just KNOW this woman is gonna want to see me again because I feel awesome and clearly I project that.
Idk I can always work on my posture and confidence, but I should probably work on filtering out girls to avoid wasting time on these dates. I usually schedule a date pretty early, so convos with these women could've ended up as ghosts rather than dates. I am well aware that my personality isn't going to click with most women while my friend can get less first dates than me but he will click because the types of chicks he connects with are most common. At the end of the day, my exes and plates tend to be quite similar now that I think of it (Cancers, come from a strong family, in the closet republicans, drinking, sports, and partying aren't their main hobbies, religious, and etc lol). And my friends tend to date the same type of women too, like the one guy only dates female versions of bros lol.
 

If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.

Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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Idk I can always work on my posture and confidence, but I should probably work on filtering out girls to avoid wasting time on these dates. I usually schedule a date pretty early, so convos with these women could've ended up as ghosts rather than dates. I am well aware that my personality isn't going to click with most women while my friend can get less first dates than me but he will click because the types of chicks he connects with are most common. At the end of the day, my exes and plates tend to be quite similar now that I think of it (Cancers, come from a strong family, in the closet republicans, drinking, sports, and partying aren't their main hobbies, religious, and etc lol). And my friends tend to date the same type of women too, like the one guy only dates female versions of bros lol.
I mean you can use that as a crutch if you want to but clicking with a woman isn't as hard as you make it out to be. Some combination of fun, exciting, confident, able to lead, interesting convo and some sexuality sprinkled in is usually enough to get them interested with about half of those being highly interested for me.

It's the convo, body language and the vibe you are giving them in person probably 90% of the time. If that isn't something you want to improve on then I am not sure what to tell you. Keep getting the same results then if that is what you'd rather do. Clearly something you are doing isn't working well, if you continue to keep doing the same things why would you expect different results? Makes no sense to me.
 
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Did you read my reply?

Try that. You seem to be in your own head about this. Quit over analyzing. Just get out there and make it happen.

The #1 mistake you’re making, I already know, is having ‘logical’ conversations with these women.

Many guys think they have to get to know a girl before something physical happens.

They couldn’t be more wrong.
I mean I ain't going to attract every girl. Yeah I can just be quiet and eventually the girl ghosts me down the road because I wasn't what she was looking for lol.
 
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I mean you can use that as a crutch if you want to but clicking with a woman isn't as hard as you make it out to be. Some combination of fun, exciting, confident, able to lead, interesting convo and some sexuality sprinkled in is usually enough to get them interested with about half of those being highly interested for me.

It's the convo, body language and the vibe you are giving them in person probably 90% of the time. If that isn't something you want to improve on then I am not sure what to tell you. Keep getting the same results then if that is what you'd rather do. Clearly something you are doing isn't working well, if you continue to keep doing the same things why would you expect different results? Makes no sense to me.
Okay, the girl that sparked this topic by telling me there wasn't a romantic connection, basically went off on a tangent about hating trump, the George Floyd protests, reparations for blacks, and how she didn't want to join a white sorority in college, so hung out with the AKAs, and other WOKE SJW nonsense. I didn't argue with her, I made her laugh, she told to contact her when I was free again and kissed me on the cheek. It sucks, but I know for damn straight I'm not the type of guy that she's looking for lol.
 

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Okay, the girl that sparked this topic by telling me there wasn't a romantic connection, basically went off on a tangent about hating trump, the George Floyd protests, reparations for blacks, and how she didn't want to join a white sorority in college, so hung out with the AKAs, and other WOKE SJW nonsense. I didn't argue with her, I made her laugh, she told to contact her when I was free again and kissed me on the cheek. It sucks, but I know for damn straight I'm not the type of guy that she's looking for lol.
OK. Why did you let her lead the conversation? Cut threads. Say something like "We can get back to that in a bit but what I really want to know is..." And change topics. As a man, leading doesn't just apply to picking the place and time for a date or deciding where to sit. It's our job to lead the conversation where we want it to go because if not often times it will go to where THEY want it to go, which are usually safe, boring topics that do nothing for you and then at the end of the night you wonder what happened. This could be construed as a test...to see if you are able to lead the convo or if you are going to just let her ramble on and on about anything she feels like.

It is your job to lead as a man...all the time everywhere.
 

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Back when I lived in Austin in late 2016, about a month before the election, I was by myself at a bar near my apartment. Ended up sitting on the patio with this Bernie supporter I met that night. We had been drinking, of course, and her and her friend ended up yelling at me because I tipped my hand that I may not be a raging Liberal, as they were.
Why the hell are people talking politics with women? Religion and politics are never topics of conversation that should be voluntarily brought up nor should they be entertained if brought up by them. Dismiss it and change topics.

I'm there to get my d!ck sucked not have a debate.
 
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OK. Why did you let her lead the conversation? Cut threads. Say something like "We can get back to that in a bit but what I really want to know is..." And change topics. As a man, leading doesn't just apply to picking the place and time for a date or deciding where to sit. It's our job to lead the conversation where we want it to go because if not often times it will go to where THEY want it to go, which are usually safe, boring topics that do nothing for you and then at the end of the night you wonder what happened. This could be construed as a test...to see if you are able to lead the convo or if you are going to just let her ramble on and on about anything she feels like.

It is your job to lead as a man...all the time everywhere.
I feel like this is playing with fire though. I mean could've did this, but what if I were to fake this, get laid, end up catching feelings for this girl and all hell breaking lose in 2 months. VS I get rejected after the first date and avoid this potential disaster lol. I had a girl similar to this but she was Latina and I did this and I got sex out of her three times and ended up doing something stupid at the end that I won't mention lol that got me ghosted.
 

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I feel like this is playing with fire though. I mean could've did this, but what if I were to fake this, get laid, end up catching feelings for this girl and all hell breaking lose in 2 months.
when girls fall for you, they adopt your political ideology (or loosen up on theirs when they're around you). my girl was pro-feminist before i met her.
 
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when girls fall for you, they adopt your political ideology (or loosen up on theirs when they're around you). my girl was pro-feminist before i met her.
It takes months for a girl to start actually falling for you though, unless you are talking to a girl extremely below your league
 

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I feel like this is playing with fire though. I mean could've did this, but what if I were to fake this, get laid, end up catching feelings for this girl and all hell breaking lose in 2 months. VS I get rejected after the first date and avoid this potential disaster lol. I had a girl similar to this but she was Latina and I did this and I got sex out of her three times and ended up doing something stupid at the end that I won't mention lol that got me ghosted.
So by not controlling and leading the conversation you think you somehow helped yourself? And fake what? That you don't want to hear the Bullsh!t she is talking about? Good luck bro. You need it.
 
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So by not controlling and leading the conversation you think you somehow helped yourself? And fake what? That you don't want to hear the Bullsh!t she is talking about? Good luck bro. You need it.
I helped myself by not potentially playing dancing fire with a toxic sjw feminist that would have screwed me later on in life potentially yes lol
 

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I feel like this is playing with fire though. I mean could've did this, but what if I were to fake this, get laid, end up catching feelings for this girl and all hell breaking lose in 2 months. VS I get rejected after the first date and avoid this potential disaster lol. I had a girl similar to this but she was Latina and I did this and I got sex out of her three times and ended up doing something stupid at the end that I won't mention lol that got me ghosted.
Nah. @BackInTheGame78 is right. Avoid politics and religion for as long as possible.

I had a three-month fling last year with a hard core Trump supporting black girl (I can’t stand him). She was open about it up front. After 3 months of solid game and blowing her back out she started pressing me for a relationship. I declined citing political differences but she persisted. The point is she was too invested in me as a person to care about my politics. You ruin that on the first date if you open your month.

I had a similar situation with a “devout” religious girl 3 years back. She wasn’t that devout because we were banging like rabbits, but she was an allday Sunday church girl very involved in the lifestyle. I told her after 4 months I don’t want to do the church thing. By then she was too invested and kept saying “we should overlook our differences.”

I actually prefer women to be apolitical. They should be following the lead of their men, not debating with us about it.
 
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Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

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I guess we all have our trigger points, I'm basically what you call a Bill Maher Democrat, and I can deal with Trumpers, communists, Reaganists, and etc, but I can't deal with the damn SJW bernie bro/AOC fetish Twitter reddit leftist at all. Too hell with them lol.
 

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I guess we all have our trigger points, I'm basically what you call a Bill Maher Democrat, and I can deal with Trumpers, communists, Reaganists, and etc, but I can't deal with the damn SJW bernie bro/AOC fetish Twitter reddit leftist at all. Too hell with them lol.
I can overlook politics if she is an HB7/8+ with good character. Unfortunately this girl had below average facial aesthetics, so it was my “excuse” not to commit. She had a killer body & was great in bed though.

I get along better with right-wing girls than hard core left wing girls. The RW chicks are typically more disciplined, respectful & submissive. I still prefer an apolitical lady. My current girlfriend hates politics and has no strong opinions.
 

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Yes, most dates are a waste of time. Most men experience dates with women that are one date, no sex, no second date. How you present yourself matters a lot and also how you get the dates matters. Dates from swipe apps are the most likely to fail.

@Jake_Gyllenhaal69 you also mentioned you are in Texas. Where? A few weeks ago, I wrote a post about dating in Texas. Dallas and Austin are the two most difficult cities.
 
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So my date tonight went well, she was hotter than her pics, like 8.5-9 so it threw me off. I did my best to keep the date directed towards her and she opened up. I don't plan on sending her a follow-up text because it seems like that never goes well and if the girl is interested she will reach back, hell it might even cause her to side tracked that I didn't send a typical follow-up text lol
 

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It's really easy for me to get a date, but usually the girl ghosts me or tells me we don't have a romantic connection afterwards. I'll even have girls flirt with me, pay my food, tell me when they can meet up again, but still be unable to get a scond date out of them. Is this normal?

1). I live in the suburbs currently, so doing anything near my place or asking her to come to my place is out of the question because most women I meet live in the city. As a result, I have to always pick a place near them lol.....BLAH BLAH I can't do anything about this right now until my lease ends and I get everything straightened up.

2). Usually I meet up at bars or pubs for a drink at most.

All depends on your looks and style of talking imo.
 
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