Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Maybe I just mis-read the post here Royal, but are you saying not to dress that way in a bar? Or are you saying dress that way but you better be ready to hit on the girl?Originally posted by Royal Elite
In a club if you are dressed very nice, hair done, decent jewelry, women will more then likely perceive you as the player type, and therefore will expect that type of behavior. Therefore dont expect a lot of approaches, since they will be expecting it from you. Dont look confident, and act cowardly.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Is this a joke post?Originally posted by Royal Elite
Dont look confident, and act cowardly.
Thats why I dont like wearing really expensive clothes anymore, Im keeping it basic now...Cause when the girls see you, they think you have alot of money, and as for myself, I was getting 50% discounts from people in the store...So when they find out you dont have that much money, they prolly wont want to mess with you anymore cause its like you lied to them...Plus all those clothes dont mean sh1t if you dont have any game...I know dudes who are my age and drive beemers and wear the best clothes and they still dont get anything...Originally posted by Royal Elite
Everything you do sends a message-the way you talk, what you say, how you move, and your appearance. If you see a dude in black leather and a mohawk you think punk rocker, you see a girl with little to no clothes you think ez. So the way you dress does send a message. For all you smooth dressers out there relize this point. In a club if you are dressed very nice, hair done, decent jewelry, women will more then likely perceive you as the player type, and therefore will expect that type of behavior. Therefore dont expect a lot of approaches, since they will be expecting it from you. Dont look confident, and act cowardly.
No this isnt a joke post. I see this time and time again at the club. Guys dressed to impress from head to toe, looking like they the star of the show, but when its time to ride they run and hide, and dont act like a man, with little pride.Originally posted by Scrumtulescence
Is this a joke post?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I understand that. But act cowardly and don't show any confidence? Doesn't that kind of go against, uhh, everything?Originally posted by Royal Elite
No this isnt a joke post. I see this time and time again at the club. Guys dressed to impress from head to toe, looking like they the star of the show, but when its time to ride they run and hide, and dont act like a man, with little pride.
Check this out, I know from personal experience...If you dress better than girls and have confident body language, girls will be to shook to even talk to you sometimes, and some of them might hate you cause you are so good...So if you want girls to be more comfortable and to go at you, you have to look less confident so the girls wont be scared...Then when they are hooked you use your game...Originally posted by Scrumtulescence
I understand that. But act cowardly and don't show any confidence? Doesn't that kind of go against, uhh, everything?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Yeah, but it depends on the girl...If shes confident, they will go at you or make it obvious...If they have low self esteem, theyll get scared or you might not even know they like you, some of them will hate you...The nicer dressed girls will prolly like you more, but the others you prolly wont really be able to tell...This has nothing to do with looks either, cause I see average and busted girls with the best clothes on too...And there are really good looking girls who arnt really into that sh1t either...Originally posted by knight56
So you saying girls wont talk to us because there are scare too?
i find that very true.(theres also a possility of them shutting you down no matter how attractive or confident you are, some women cant just cope with all that.Originally posted by Royal Elite
I'm saying a lot of guys sit back and wait for approaches, but when you have that look of confidence not too many women will approach you. When they see a very nice looking guy dressed really well, they assume you have confidence. In general a woman will barely approach a guy, but if they think you are very high status wise, they are less likely. Im a very attractive guy, and girls I would approach would later tell me, they were always too scared to do anything other then sneak a peak here and there. Im saying dress nicely, but you better be prepared to play the role of the Man, and not wait on her.
usually you know when a girl is checking you out. If you keep catching her looking at you, she is checking you out. If she keeps smiling, she is checking you out. the problem is most guys go after the girl that is paying them no mind, and pay no mind to the girl that is giving off all the signals. Learn to be observant.Originally posted by knight56
what kind of signals would girls give us to approach them?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.