"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Everything you do sends a message-the way you talk, what you say, how you move, and your appearance. If you see a dude in black leather and a mohawk you think punk rocker, you see a girl with little to no clothes you think ez. So the way you dress does send a message. For all you smooth dressers out there relize this point. In a club if you are dressed very nice, hair done, decent jewelry, women will more then likely perceive you as the player type, and therefore will expect that type of behavior. Therefore dont expect a lot of approaches, since they will be expecting it from you. Dont look confident, and act cowardly.
 

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good post, couldn't have said it any better myself.
 

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Originally posted by Royal Elite
In a club if you are dressed very nice, hair done, decent jewelry, women will more then likely perceive you as the player type, and therefore will expect that type of behavior. Therefore dont expect a lot of approaches, since they will be expecting it from you. Dont look confident, and act cowardly.
Maybe I just mis-read the post here Royal, but are you saying not to dress that way in a bar? Or are you saying dress that way but you better be ready to hit on the girl?

Just a little confused with your wording.
 

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Wear one of those Cook's pinny's and cut a hole in the crotch. That always get me noticed.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I'm saying a lot of guys sit back and wait for approaches, but when you have that look of confidence not too many women will approach you. When they see a very nice looking guy dressed really well, they assume you have confidence. In general a woman will barely approach a guy, but if they think you are very high status wise, they are less likely. Im a very attractive guy, and girls I would approach would later tell me, they were always too scared to do anything other then sneak a peak here and there. Im saying dress nicely, but you better be prepared to play the role of the Man, and not wait on her.
 

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if you dress to impress then youve gota be able to impress, is tha point avatar and that if you dress like a player then girls will spot this and avoid you... unless they want to play of course...

you must dress in context with your self... you never see a nerdy geek dressed in a bomber jacket...do you...

your self image should appeal to yourself, and not who you want it to appeal to...
 

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Originally posted by Royal Elite
Everything you do sends a message-the way you talk, what you say, how you move, and your appearance. If you see a dude in black leather and a mohawk you think punk rocker, you see a girl with little to no clothes you think ez. So the way you dress does send a message. For all you smooth dressers out there relize this point. In a club if you are dressed very nice, hair done, decent jewelry, women will more then likely perceive you as the player type, and therefore will expect that type of behavior. Therefore dont expect a lot of approaches, since they will be expecting it from you. Dont look confident, and act cowardly.
Thats why I dont like wearing really expensive clothes anymore, Im keeping it basic now...Cause when the girls see you, they think you have alot of money, and as for myself, I was getting 50% discounts from people in the store...So when they find out you dont have that much money, they prolly wont want to mess with you anymore cause its like you lied to them...Plus all those clothes dont mean sh1t if you dont have any game...I know dudes who are my age and drive beemers and wear the best clothes and they still dont get anything...
 

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Originally posted by Scrumtulescence
Is this a joke post?
No this isnt a joke post. I see this time and time again at the club. Guys dressed to impress from head to toe, looking like they the star of the show, but when its time to ride they run and hide, and dont act like a man, with little pride.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by Royal Elite
No this isnt a joke post. I see this time and time again at the club. Guys dressed to impress from head to toe, looking like they the star of the show, but when its time to ride they run and hide, and dont act like a man, with little pride.
I understand that. But act cowardly and don't show any confidence? Doesn't that kind of go against, uhh, everything?
 

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Originally posted by Scrumtulescence
I understand that. But act cowardly and don't show any confidence? Doesn't that kind of go against, uhh, everything?
Check this out, I know from personal experience...If you dress better than girls and have confident body language, girls will be to shook to even talk to you sometimes, and some of them might hate you cause you are so good...So if you want girls to be more comfortable and to go at you, you have to look less confident so the girls wont be scared...Then when they are hooked you use your game...
 

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the post said dont look confident and act cowardly. Most dont realise the image they give off. If you dress really well (which you should) women expect you to move really confidently. During the times in my life where my confidence was kind of low because of my apperance women expected me to move like Goldey from the Mac while I was waiting for them to approach me. Once I realized the image I gave off to others I had to jump in and swim or nothing was going to happen for me.
 

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I'm finding this thread baffling. In my experience, the nicer I'm dressed, the more looks and eye contact I get. Maybe I'm not understanding what yall are getting at here but when I'm dressed nice I feel more confident and I seem to get a lot more positive responses from women in general.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by knight56
So you saying girls wont talk to us because there are scare too?
Yeah, but it depends on the girl...If shes confident, they will go at you or make it obvious...If they have low self esteem, theyll get scared or you might not even know they like you, some of them will hate you...The nicer dressed girls will prolly like you more, but the others you prolly wont really be able to tell...This has nothing to do with looks either, cause I see average and busted girls with the best clothes on too...And there are really good looking girls who arnt really into that sh1t either...
 

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what most of you have to realize is that it is not a girl's job to approach you. It's not in their nature, and too many guys becuase of fear try to make that their goal. I said a girl wont approach you, but yes she will give you signals for you to approach her. That is the natural order, she gives signs, you as the man approach. When you dress really nice, and she sees you she will ultimatically assume you have high confidence. Most women dont realize men are as afraid to approach them as they are. So if you dress nicely the chances of a woman doing your job for you goes down.
 

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Originally posted by Royal Elite
I'm saying a lot of guys sit back and wait for approaches, but when you have that look of confidence not too many women will approach you. When they see a very nice looking guy dressed really well, they assume you have confidence. In general a woman will barely approach a guy, but if they think you are very high status wise, they are less likely. Im a very attractive guy, and girls I would approach would later tell me, they were always too scared to do anything other then sneak a peak here and there. Im saying dress nicely, but you better be prepared to play the role of the Man, and not wait on her.
i find that very true.(theres also a possility of them shutting you down no matter how attractive or confident you are, some women cant just cope with all that.
 

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Originally posted by knight56
what kind of signals would girls give us to approach them?
usually you know when a girl is checking you out. If you keep catching her looking at you, she is checking you out. If she keeps smiling, she is checking you out. the problem is most guys go after the girl that is paying them no mind, and pay no mind to the girl that is giving off all the signals. Learn to be observant.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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