"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
is it fine to ask a girl for a phone number?
- Thread starter Yakovinho
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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You:So is there a number I can reach you at?
Her:I have a boyfriend
You:Thats ok, Im not the jeleaous type.
Ive done it and it works like a charm, a bf isnt a roadblock, more along the lines of a obstical. And if you think its wrong to steal a girl away from sum guy, your dead wrong. First of all she dosnt belong to him, and second she wouldnt leave him for you is she wasnt already thinking bout leaving him.
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SharinganUser said:rrr, I thought mostly men posted on this forum. Well I know this forum is ruled by men, and being a man myself (one that has fuked the hell out of a married woman), I am giving you permission to get her phone #.
I've taken the permission away with provisional 332-B. I can do this also since I am a man. So no I won't let you get her #. Sorry Yakovinho, i'm just an a-hole like that!
Half the time girls are looking for another guy if they have a boyfriend.
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
that's a good point. never heard it that way before. BUT the woman could also be not mature enough to commit. so if u steal her, than it's only a matter of time before some other dude gives u a taste of ur own medicine. who wants to deal with that?CalmCoolAndConfident said:Ive done it and it works like a charm, a bf isnt a roadblock, more along the lines of a obstical. And if you think its wrong to steal a girl away from sum guy, your dead wrong. First of all she dosnt belong to him, and second she wouldnt leave him for you is she wasnt already thinking bout leaving him.
Couple of things I'd like to mention:CalmCoolAndConfident said:Ive done it and it works like a charm, a bf isnt a roadblock, more along the lines of a obstical. And if you think its wrong to steal a girl away from sum guy, your dead wrong. First of all she dosnt belong to him, and second she wouldnt leave him for you is she wasnt already thinking bout leaving him.
1. "Boyfriend" is one thing. "Married" is another. Always keep that in mind. Granted, you shouldn't let a boyfriend stop you. However, if a girl is MARRIED, then you should back off ESPECIALLY if she has kids with the guy. I know the threadstarter was talking about boyfriend, but just wanted to clear that up.
2. If a girl will cheat on her current man with you, what makes you think she won't turn around and do the same thing to you when you become her man? Ponder that when you are chasing after another guy's girl.
knglerxt
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I just don't get the "she's not married" attitude that a lot of guys have on this forum. The girl might not have a ring on her finger yet, but she's still in a relationship. I guess the word "relationship" doesn't mean much to people these days. Just because she hasn't married the guy yet doesn't mean she doesn't intend on marrying him. Maybe she's in college and wants to wait until she graduates or something. Maybe the guy hasn't asked her to marry him. Maybe they haven't known each other long enough. There are plenty of reasons why people wait.