"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
is it fine to ask a girl for a phone number?
- Thread starter Yakovinho
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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You:So is there a number I can reach you at?
Her:I have a boyfriend
You:Thats ok, Im not the jeleaous type.
Ive done it and it works like a charm, a bf isnt a roadblock, more along the lines of a obstical. And if you think its wrong to steal a girl away from sum guy, your dead wrong. First of all she dosnt belong to him, and second she wouldnt leave him for you is she wasnt already thinking bout leaving him.
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SharinganUser said:rrr, I thought mostly men posted on this forum. Well I know this forum is ruled by men, and being a man myself (one that has fuked the hell out of a married woman), I am giving you permission to get her phone #.
I've taken the permission away with provisional 332-B. I can do this also since I am a man. So no I won't let you get her #. Sorry Yakovinho, i'm just an a-hole like that!
Half the time girls are looking for another guy if they have a boyfriend.
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
that's a good point. never heard it that way before. BUT the woman could also be not mature enough to commit. so if u steal her, than it's only a matter of time before some other dude gives u a taste of ur own medicine. who wants to deal with that?CalmCoolAndConfident said:Ive done it and it works like a charm, a bf isnt a roadblock, more along the lines of a obstical. And if you think its wrong to steal a girl away from sum guy, your dead wrong. First of all she dosnt belong to him, and second she wouldnt leave him for you is she wasnt already thinking bout leaving him.
Couple of things I'd like to mention:CalmCoolAndConfident said:Ive done it and it works like a charm, a bf isnt a roadblock, more along the lines of a obstical. And if you think its wrong to steal a girl away from sum guy, your dead wrong. First of all she dosnt belong to him, and second she wouldnt leave him for you is she wasnt already thinking bout leaving him.
1. "Boyfriend" is one thing. "Married" is another. Always keep that in mind. Granted, you shouldn't let a boyfriend stop you. However, if a girl is MARRIED, then you should back off ESPECIALLY if she has kids with the guy. I know the threadstarter was talking about boyfriend, but just wanted to clear that up.
2. If a girl will cheat on her current man with you, what makes you think she won't turn around and do the same thing to you when you become her man? Ponder that when you are chasing after another guy's girl.
knglerxt
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I just don't get the "she's not married" attitude that a lot of guys have on this forum. The girl might not have a ring on her finger yet, but she's still in a relationship. I guess the word "relationship" doesn't mean much to people these days. Just because she hasn't married the guy yet doesn't mean she doesn't intend on marrying him. Maybe she's in college and wants to wait until she graduates or something. Maybe the guy hasn't asked her to marry him. Maybe they haven't known each other long enough. There are plenty of reasons why people wait.