"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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is it cheating?

GREAT WHITE SHARK

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When in a ltr, is it cheating when you:

*place ads on the internet or look for girls on dating sites?
*flirt with chicks on bars?
*go out with your friends at night and flirt with chicks?
*visit a chick you dont know very well, but she is obviously wanting you?

*going to a orgy and having no condoms sex? heheheh j/k

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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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personally, i dont think cheating is right, anyway you describe it or try to justify it. that's just not the kinda person i am.

1) internet for dates- not cheating, unless you find some, and act on them
2) flirting is fine. you can look and talk, but you cant touch.
3) see # 2
4) what kind of visit? what happend?
if it was just a social call, not cheating.

Also depends on how long this LTR is. if it's over a year, and you are doing this sh!t, it is cheating. break up w/ your LTR girl, and start living the single life and having fun again.
 

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It's only cheating if you told her previously that you'd be exclusive with her or if you've lead her to believe that.

You can still have multiple LTRs and STRs otherwise.
 

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lmao @ going to orgys and having no condom sex... now what you think... Is that cheating??? very funny...


To your girlfriend anything having to do with another female beside family is cheating(we just dont tell you)

basically the ad thing I would consider cheating because your putting yourself out there. The point of an ad is to attract single women who are basically looking for a date.

Flirting is ok to a certain extent... as long as its just flirting...

personally I wouldnt let my man go out at night with any chic...

Let turn the tables around...

Would it be ok for your girlfriend to do the things you are doing????

Are you getting mad yet at the fact that your women is out there with one of her guy friends that likes her and shes flirting with him?????

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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*dead* you spoke to soon!!!

:D :D :D :D
 

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umm nevermind I was gonna type something but I deleted it!! :D
 

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STOP DRANKING DAT SUGA WATER!! LOL
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Originally posted by GREAT WHITE SHARK
When in a ltr, is it cheating when you:

*place ads on the internet or look for girls on dating sites?
*flirt with chicks on bars?
*go out with your friends at night and flirt with chicks?
*visit a chick you dont know very well, but she is obviously wanting you?

*going to a orgy and having no condoms sex? heheheh j/k

:eek:
Yes, because you're planning for an interlude or else what are you doing on that site?

If a chick's on a bar, flirting with her is de rigeur. It's not cheating as long as nothing comes of it.

Light flirting's okay, draw the line at active KINO.

Not if you don't do anything.

My question here is, if you're tempted to do all these things, why don't you break it off with your LTR, sionce you're obviously not interested any more?

-Cyrano
 
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