"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

is it cheating?

GREAT WHITE SHARK

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 19, 2001
Messages
682
Reaction score
1
Location
EVERYWHERE!!
When in a ltr, is it cheating when you:

*place ads on the internet or look for girls on dating sites?
*flirt with chicks on bars?
*go out with your friends at night and flirt with chicks?
*visit a chick you dont know very well, but she is obviously wanting you?

*going to a orgy and having no condoms sex? heheheh j/k

:eek:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

Dukester

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 24, 2004
Messages
538
Reaction score
0
Age
40
Location
Dayton, Ohio
personally, i dont think cheating is right, anyway you describe it or try to justify it. that's just not the kinda person i am.

1) internet for dates- not cheating, unless you find some, and act on them
2) flirting is fine. you can look and talk, but you cant touch.
3) see # 2
4) what kind of visit? what happend?
if it was just a social call, not cheating.

Also depends on how long this LTR is. if it's over a year, and you are doing this sh!t, it is cheating. break up w/ your LTR girl, and start living the single life and having fun again.
 

JT47319

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 23, 2002
Messages
665
Reaction score
0
Location
Hermosa Beach, CA
It's only cheating if you told her previously that you'd be exclusive with her or if you've lead her to believe that.

You can still have multiple LTRs and STRs otherwise.
 

Cutiepiie

Banned
Joined
Nov 11, 2004
Messages
71
Reaction score
0
Age
44
Location
Hotlanta
lmao @ going to orgys and having no condom sex... now what you think... Is that cheating??? very funny...


To your girlfriend anything having to do with another female beside family is cheating(we just dont tell you)

basically the ad thing I would consider cheating because your putting yourself out there. The point of an ad is to attract single women who are basically looking for a date.

Flirting is ok to a certain extent... as long as its just flirting...

personally I wouldnt let my man go out at night with any chic...

Let turn the tables around...

Would it be ok for your girlfriend to do the things you are doing????

Are you getting mad yet at the fact that your women is out there with one of her guy friends that likes her and shes flirting with him?????

=0)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

Cutiepiie

Banned
Joined
Nov 11, 2004
Messages
71
Reaction score
0
Age
44
Location
Hotlanta
*dead* you spoke to soon!!!

:D :D :D :D
 

Cutiepiie

Banned
Joined
Nov 11, 2004
Messages
71
Reaction score
0
Age
44
Location
Hotlanta
umm nevermind I was gonna type something but I deleted it!! :D
 

Cutiepiie

Banned
Joined
Nov 11, 2004
Messages
71
Reaction score
0
Age
44
Location
Hotlanta
STOP DRANKING DAT SUGA WATER!! LOL
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

CyranoDeBergerac

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 8, 2002
Messages
1,148
Reaction score
5
Location
Camp Pendleton, Ca
Originally posted by GREAT WHITE SHARK
When in a ltr, is it cheating when you:

*place ads on the internet or look for girls on dating sites?
*flirt with chicks on bars?
*go out with your friends at night and flirt with chicks?
*visit a chick you dont know very well, but she is obviously wanting you?

*going to a orgy and having no condoms sex? heheheh j/k

:eek:
Yes, because you're planning for an interlude or else what are you doing on that site?

If a chick's on a bar, flirting with her is de rigeur. It's not cheating as long as nothing comes of it.

Light flirting's okay, draw the line at active KINO.

Not if you don't do anything.

My question here is, if you're tempted to do all these things, why don't you break it off with your LTR, sionce you're obviously not interested any more?

-Cyrano
 
Top