"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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is it C+F

inzone50

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My gf got a hair cut and i told her to send a pic(since i'm not going to see her for a couple days) and she is like not now i haven't styled it yet.

I said "I knew it, its ugly!"

Is that ****y and funny?

I make fun of my gf a lot but sometimes i don't know if i'm being CF or i sound like a prick?

or i make fun of they way she walks and say she is so blonde.

or i mock the way she eats...

or when she said i had half the mind to do this.... i said wait...you have a mind...

her reaction is she says but you still like me anyways!!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I sometimes get confused that when is ****y too ****y and not funny anymore. I seemed to played a bit too ****y and jerky lately and end up hurting people.
 

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Solarium said:
I sometimes get confused that when is ****y too ****y and not funny anymore. I seemed to played a bit too ****y and jerky lately and end up hurting people.
ya i feel like that too sometimes.

...but she is my gf so.... can't be too bad
 

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Look, i can be VERY C+F with my gf. But i exactly know where the line is.
I don't cross it, but i push it.
 

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Infraction said:
Look, i can be VERY C+F with my gf. But i exactly know where the line is.
I don't cross it, but i push it.
when is crossing the line?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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just so suave

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you know when youve crossed the line when she says your an a$$hole :D
 

just so suave

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but seriously :p try and make C+f more funny than ****y, but it must be ****y still ;)
 

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THE PROBLEM WITH C & F-is it does little to gain rapport (PRENOUNCED RA-PORE).

It's used to guage a persons interest level by initiating playful banter....IT TAKES TONS OF PRACTICE TO TRULY MASTER. THE FORMULAE has to be altered with each female as no two women are alike. Most guys have the ****y part down to a science but the humor part is where the problem lies.

Should also be used sparingly.....too much and you become iritating. Do you really need it when you reached girlfriend status......not so much.

C & F is just a prelude to the next level. Don't rely on it as your one and only tool for attraction.

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