"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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is it C+F

inzone50

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My gf got a hair cut and i told her to send a pic(since i'm not going to see her for a couple days) and she is like not now i haven't styled it yet.

I said "I knew it, its ugly!"

Is that ****y and funny?

I make fun of my gf a lot but sometimes i don't know if i'm being CF or i sound like a prick?

or i make fun of they way she walks and say she is so blonde.

or i mock the way she eats...

or when she said i had half the mind to do this.... i said wait...you have a mind...

her reaction is she says but you still like me anyways!!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I sometimes get confused that when is ****y too ****y and not funny anymore. I seemed to played a bit too ****y and jerky lately and end up hurting people.
 

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Solarium said:
I sometimes get confused that when is ****y too ****y and not funny anymore. I seemed to played a bit too ****y and jerky lately and end up hurting people.
ya i feel like that too sometimes.

...but she is my gf so.... can't be too bad
 

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Look, i can be VERY C+F with my gf. But i exactly know where the line is.
I don't cross it, but i push it.
 

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Infraction said:
Look, i can be VERY C+F with my gf. But i exactly know where the line is.
I don't cross it, but i push it.
when is crossing the line?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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just so suave

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you know when youve crossed the line when she says your an a$$hole :D
 

just so suave

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but seriously :p try and make C+f more funny than ****y, but it must be ****y still ;)
 

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THE PROBLEM WITH C & F-is it does little to gain rapport (PRENOUNCED RA-PORE).

It's used to guage a persons interest level by initiating playful banter....IT TAKES TONS OF PRACTICE TO TRULY MASTER. THE FORMULAE has to be altered with each female as no two women are alike. Most guys have the ****y part down to a science but the humor part is where the problem lies.

Should also be used sparingly.....too much and you become iritating. Do you really need it when you reached girlfriend status......not so much.

C & F is just a prelude to the next level. Don't rely on it as your one and only tool for attraction.

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