"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Is interest important?

MackJr

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I'm not talking about sexual interest, that's why this thread is in Anything Else. It's more of a success thread.

I'm talking about general interest. For example, why you learn to use a computer or why you learn about cars or some hobby. We do hobbies because they're interesting to us.


However, at work, the stuff one does isn't that interesting. If your job is to deliver mail, you only have to drive a route so many times before it gets boring and all the mail is the same. If your job is to program computers, after a while you'll see that C++, Java, and C# are just variations on a theme. It seems that everything gets like this.

You could even get bored of DJing if you tried to master it and hit a plateau.

So... is interest even a relevant matter to consider when doing something? If I were fully logical then I'd just take up the field that pays the absolute most money and be a lawyer or Wall Street person. It's just that all that minutiae is so bland. To what degree should emotional involvement play a role in decisions about these sort of things?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Phoenix_of_the_ashes

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Well you do want to do something that you like right? Or is it unimportant for you what you do as long as you get good money for it?
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Two jobs paying the same with the same hours and relatively the same distance from home, which do you pick? Would interest matter?
 

MackJr

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if the jobs were the same, interest would matter. But say that you want to take what you're doing to the next level, but the price is higher amounts of drudgery.
 

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So let me get this straight:

1) You have a hobby/interest/job
2) You want to get to the next level of success
3) But in order to do that, it is boring


If my assumption is right, then you just need to figure out whether the results of "the next level" will be worth the boredom.

Sometimes you need to experience a bit of boredom in order to recieve the rewards.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Bonhomme

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Importnt, but depends upon your options

Of course interest is important, but some people just don't have any choice in some matters.

Ya gotta do what ya gotta do. If you can make a career of something intersting and fun, all the better for you.
 
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