"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Is interest important?

MackJr

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I'm not talking about sexual interest, that's why this thread is in Anything Else. It's more of a success thread.

I'm talking about general interest. For example, why you learn to use a computer or why you learn about cars or some hobby. We do hobbies because they're interesting to us.


However, at work, the stuff one does isn't that interesting. If your job is to deliver mail, you only have to drive a route so many times before it gets boring and all the mail is the same. If your job is to program computers, after a while you'll see that C++, Java, and C# are just variations on a theme. It seems that everything gets like this.

You could even get bored of DJing if you tried to master it and hit a plateau.

So... is interest even a relevant matter to consider when doing something? If I were fully logical then I'd just take up the field that pays the absolute most money and be a lawyer or Wall Street person. It's just that all that minutiae is so bland. To what degree should emotional involvement play a role in decisions about these sort of things?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Phoenix_of_the_ashes

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Well you do want to do something that you like right? Or is it unimportant for you what you do as long as you get good money for it?
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Two jobs paying the same with the same hours and relatively the same distance from home, which do you pick? Would interest matter?
 

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if the jobs were the same, interest would matter. But say that you want to take what you're doing to the next level, but the price is higher amounts of drudgery.
 

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So let me get this straight:

1) You have a hobby/interest/job
2) You want to get to the next level of success
3) But in order to do that, it is boring


If my assumption is right, then you just need to figure out whether the results of "the next level" will be worth the boredom.

Sometimes you need to experience a bit of boredom in order to recieve the rewards.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Importnt, but depends upon your options

Of course interest is important, but some people just don't have any choice in some matters.

Ya gotta do what ya gotta do. If you can make a career of something intersting and fun, all the better for you.
 
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