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Don Juan
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- Apr 10, 2018
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Hey DJs,
coming back for some more great advice! a bit lengthy but needed to add details,
Been seeing this girl for 3 months already, seeing each other almost every weekend (with peppering in about 2 or 3 unexplained absences as recommended by 16 commandments of poon).
I understand that it's not "official" yet but it feels official the way we've been carrying ourselves.
Anyway, this weekend is one of those we didn't spend together. She called me yesterday saying she'll be coming next week to see me (a 3 hour bus drive from where she lives). Then we might have a lunch date during the week since I have to go for a business meeting in the capital of our country. She also took the opportunity to let me know that she is going to an event she has been looking forward to (she always goes to this specific event) and she told me she'd take pictures and send them to me.
So I went out also to a local club here to have a good time which I did. However I got out of club around 4am and I decided that I'll call to check if she's home safe, because the city where she was is a very dangerous one (lots of gang violence) and usually there is some sort of shooting at those big events.
now I know I probably did wrong by calling her at that hour and showing her that she's on my mind while I should be out having fun like she was.
The thing is this: I tried calling her but she didn't answer my call but immediately sent me 3 texts after:
"baaaaaaaabe"
I'm alive babe"
"on my way home"
this was at 4:14am
she tried to call me at 4:36am 3 times but i didn't answer
haven't heard from her since then.
now like I said I know we're not official but she's been meeting my family and friends and I've been meeting hers and we do have a relationship dynamic going on.
my problem was that if it was indeed her band members (she plays in a steel band as a hobby) that she was out with and they were her friends, she could've easily answered my phone call. So now this leaves me wondering who she was with and where at that time.
should I employ dread game to deal with this or should I just openly communicate something along the lines of "look I would have appreciated you answering my calls instead of reverting to texting. I just wanted to know that you were home safe, I thought about you. Didn't think it was a big deal to call you knowing you were with your friends"
what's your advice for the best way to deal with this now and in the future?
thanks a lot!!
coming back for some more great advice! a bit lengthy but needed to add details,
Been seeing this girl for 3 months already, seeing each other almost every weekend (with peppering in about 2 or 3 unexplained absences as recommended by 16 commandments of poon).
I understand that it's not "official" yet but it feels official the way we've been carrying ourselves.
Anyway, this weekend is one of those we didn't spend together. She called me yesterday saying she'll be coming next week to see me (a 3 hour bus drive from where she lives). Then we might have a lunch date during the week since I have to go for a business meeting in the capital of our country. She also took the opportunity to let me know that she is going to an event she has been looking forward to (she always goes to this specific event) and she told me she'd take pictures and send them to me.
So I went out also to a local club here to have a good time which I did. However I got out of club around 4am and I decided that I'll call to check if she's home safe, because the city where she was is a very dangerous one (lots of gang violence) and usually there is some sort of shooting at those big events.
now I know I probably did wrong by calling her at that hour and showing her that she's on my mind while I should be out having fun like she was.
The thing is this: I tried calling her but she didn't answer my call but immediately sent me 3 texts after:
"baaaaaaaabe"
I'm alive babe"
"on my way home"
this was at 4:14am
she tried to call me at 4:36am 3 times but i didn't answer
haven't heard from her since then.
now like I said I know we're not official but she's been meeting my family and friends and I've been meeting hers and we do have a relationship dynamic going on.
my problem was that if it was indeed her band members (she plays in a steel band as a hobby) that she was out with and they were her friends, she could've easily answered my phone call. So now this leaves me wondering who she was with and where at that time.
should I employ dread game to deal with this or should I just openly communicate something along the lines of "look I would have appreciated you answering my calls instead of reverting to texting. I just wanted to know that you were home safe, I thought about you. Didn't think it was a big deal to call you knowing you were with your friends"
what's your advice for the best way to deal with this now and in the future?
thanks a lot!!