"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Is Craigslist casual encouters legit?

MatureDJ

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I've been perusing this lately,and have been noticing ads from some quite attractive and sexually willing women. I haven't been seeing the usual fat and ugly chicks that are typical of online dating. Perhaps it's just being used as fronts for spam or escort services, etc.?

(update)

This seems like a legit ad. Of course, a guy like me, or the 39 year old virgin guy, would not have a chance with this "plus sized" woman in any case (heightism.) (BTW, does she look like she is only 19?)

http://batonrouge.craigslist.org/cas/1193754283.html
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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jon3947

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how can the pic on the left not be a complete turnoff
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Damn MatureDJ, I thought your taste in women was a lot better than that.
 

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I would hate to think wat his thoughts of ugly girls r to him lmaooooo
 

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You have to sort through the posts.

Some ads are posted by escorts who are looking for clients. When you respond the girl will offer you a deal.

Some ads are posted by Cam & phone services using the free CL post to try and find customers.

Some ads are posted by dating services and other websites using the free CL post to lure customers.

Some ads are posted by fat women who are desperate.

Some ads are posted by older women who are desperate.

Some ads are posted by ugly women who are desperate.

Some ads are posted by Phishers.

Some ads are posted by women who want to cheat on their husbands.

I remember this being discussed before. It's pretty much a grab bag of all of the above. Very few are legit ads from good women.
 
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Couldn't of said it better but I'll further expand on this list

Paradox said:
Some ads are posted by escorts who are looking for clients. When you respond the girl will offer you a deal. - 10%

Some ads are posted by Cam & phone services using the free CL post to try and find customers. - 20%

Some ads are posted by dating services and other websites using the free CL post to lure customers. - 60%

Some ads are posted by fat women who are desperate. - 3%

Some ads are posted by older women who are desperate. - 1%

Some ads are posted by ugly women who are desperate. - 1%

Some ads are posted by Phishers. - 0% - Phishers don't use CL

Some ads are posted by women who want to cheat on their husbands. 5%

legit ads from good women - the limit approaching 0%
 
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