"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Is "being likeable" and "being attractive" interconnected?

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"Likeable" people are often positive, respectful, polite, confident, do a lot of the listening, smile, open up & make eye contact.

Is "you're a likeable person" a compliment? Does it mean that you're attractive? Or is "being likeable" and "being attractive" not interconnected?

What if you're rude, frown and avoid eye contact? Does that make you unattractive?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Im a likeable person in the sense you mean but Im not attractive, I dont believe the two are connected so tight.

I can recall in my experiene plenty of girls I know which are likeable but none of them make me hard, I believe the same happens the other way around.

There are guys you clearly see girls like and find pleasable to deal with, they even try to settle them with their friends (the cute ones) but are not exactly those guys that they would bang in a night out with some alchool involved.

Its hard to explain but sometime you like the person but you dont find the body attractive enought, while other times you find the person despicable while being turned on from the way they are physically made.

Being likeable is more about the vibes you give that your look, anyway keep in mind that everyone has a different meaning for those words.
 

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People attribute positive traits to those they find good looking whether they deserve them or not, the same way they attribute negative traits to those they don't find attractive, whether they deserve them or not. It's been researched quite heavily and has been known for quite a while...
 

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People attribute positive traits to those they find good looking whether they deserve them or not, the same way they attribute negative traits to those they don't find attractive, whether they deserve them or not. It's been researched quite heavily and has been known for quite a while...
Totally true, agree with this.

Which is why the same exact behaviour is suave when performed from an attratice guy only to became harassment when done from an ugly one.
 

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People attribute positive traits to those they find good looking whether they deserve them or not.
I know what you mean. It's the "Halo Effect".

The Halo Effect allows us to make snap judgments, because we only have to consider one feature of a person in order to "know" about all other features.

Thousands of years ago, when humans lived in caves and jungles, there might even have been some truth to these snap judgments: to grow tall a person would have had to eat lots of meat and was consequently likely to be a good hunter that was worth paying attention to. And a good-looking person would have avoided deformity from lost battles, animal bites, and nasty diseases, which again would make them role models for other ape-men.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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People attribute positive traits to those they find good looking whether they deserve them or not, the same way they attribute negative traits to those they don't find attractive, whether they deserve them or not. It's been researched quite heavily and has been known for quite a while...
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