I remember when i was younger i used to be alot more positive and would easily laugh when someone said something negative. I wasn't even considered a nice guy. But as i got older i started listening to what other people was saying and it made me a bit softer. I can think of almost every negative thought(or negative way of thinking) that i ever had and it always leads back to someones opinion or someone saying something. The most perfect example is society trying to teach guys to feel guilty about their desires and that being ncie is the way to be. When i was much younger i didn't worry about such things, but as i got older i felt i had to be a nice guy after being taught that.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Is alot of our negative thinking taught??
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