I remember when i was younger i used to be alot more positive and would easily laugh when someone said something negative. I wasn't even considered a nice guy. But as i got older i started listening to what other people was saying and it made me a bit softer. I can think of almost every negative thought(or negative way of thinking) that i ever had and it always leads back to someones opinion or someone saying something. The most perfect example is society trying to teach guys to feel guilty about their desires and that being ncie is the way to be. When i was much younger i didn't worry about such things, but as i got older i felt i had to be a nice guy after being taught that.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Is alot of our negative thinking taught??
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