“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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IOI's and approaching

YtBlur

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Really no hot girls except my gym. Girl I have my eye on but she gives no IOI's before. I'm a good looking guy whose never been rejected but a lot of the time the girls never gives IOI's to me like people say if your so attractive. Should i strike up a convo at the gym anyway?
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Gym is not an ideal place to converse and pick up women but I did it a month or so ago for the first time ever and it worked out well but that was mainly because i was in a weird, playful mood that day...

The only real IOI you'll ever get that means anything is when she has your d!ck in her mouth. Dont wait go for what you want but you need to expand your areas to find women.
 

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I guess I never been rejected because I'm good at picking up on the ones who are likely to say yes. Talking to one girl and asking for her number once should be alright and not label me as that guy in the gym
 

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I guess I never been rejected because I'm good at picking up on the ones who are likely to say yes. Talking to one girl and asking for her number once should be alright and not label me as that guy in the gym
Thats not how you improve. People who never fail have never really succeeded at anything either
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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You don't want to be that person that is looking for IOI's before initiating. Some guy posted the other day he is never rejected because he only approaches girls that are interested, you don't want to be that guy either. This game is not to be played from safety and comfort, that's beta. Waiting for girls to approach you or put it on a plate is not going to get you the quality of women you want and I know from experience because growing up I was that guy. I have the **** relationships to prove it.
 

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Makes a lot of sense. Girls that choose me were cute/hot but always crazy and sorta bipolar. Time for me to choose. I contribute not being rejected because I'm 19 with a sports car(material items etc) and my looks get me talked about around schools. Even though im short 5'7.
 

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Find the middle ground between approaching an angry looking woman wearing headphones and typing on a laptop versus waiting for a declaration of love to approach

Both of those extremes will get you nowhere

The only IOIs you need to watch out for are ones that generally lack ambiguity. Stuff like compliance or letting you escalate or if she's willing to be 5 minutes late to whatever shes doing to talk to you, or something.

Likewise don't get yourself rejected needlessly, it'll only crush your spirits. Only do approaches where you think you at least have a chance (learn to spot wastes of time) and use failures to calibrate appropriately (for example, i have a bad track record for girls with laptops) and learn from mistakes (bad openers, bad closing, bad jokes, bad reading of signals/signs/hints, etc.)
 

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Never been rejected? I call bs. Every guy has been rejected at some point. It’s almost impossible not to have been. Even if you approached only 10 women in your life, the chances are so slim, unless you’re going for women who are bottom bottoooom if the barrel.

And you’re on here just puffing your chest out. “I’m good looking, have a sports car, never been rejected”.
Why you looking for advice then, James Deen?

Go get rejected 10 times today and report back then let us know how you feel, JD.
 

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Gym is not an ideal place to converse and pick up women but I did it a month or so ago for the first time ever and it worked out well but that was mainly because i was in a weird, playful mood that day...

The only real IOI you'll ever get that means anything is when she has your d!ck in her mouth. Dont wait go for what you want but you need to expand your areas to find women.
Agree on both fronts here. Gym isn't the easiest place to lay game. Not impossible, just not ideal. Additionally, if we ALL waited for IOIs, no one would ever get laid or even dates. You see what you like, go after what you like. It's your job as an assertive man :)
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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