Im not really sure of this, i sit a few seats to the right of this cute chick, everytime im looking at the front of the class where the teachers at ( the seats are set up awkward) she turns her head really fast and gets a quick glance at m e then turns back around, she did this like 10 times today, I was talking to my friend who sits in front of me and i got caught by the teacher so he moves me behind her and one seat to the left, so diagonally behind her. She does the same thing while im sitting in my different seat also, really quick glance and looks away? IOI? Also, she was gone from class for about 2 months because i heard she got into a bad accident and got some metal in her leg, im not completely sure of this, so ima try to talk to her tomorrow and say something like " Hey why have you been gone so long?"
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Ioi?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Supremo
Senior Don Juan
Well, it sounds like she's PURPOSELY wanting you to notice she's looking at you so that you'll go talk to her.
So, go talk to her.
I'd be careful on the subject of her accident, if that really happened. Let her bring it up.
But whatever works man, I'd definitely say it's an IOI.
So, go talk to her.
I'd be careful on the subject of her accident, if that really happened. Let her bring it up.
But whatever works man, I'd definitely say it's an IOI.
jesusrules
Senior Don Juan
yeah thats fine say that. anyways it sounds to me like she actually likes you man. remember chicks arent going to look at you much if they dont like you.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Supremo
Senior Don Juan
show wont be sprinting on that leg of hers
kiidddiinnnggg. but i loled at my own joke ill admit
kiidddiinnnggg. but i loled at my own joke ill admit
Supremo
Senior Don Juan
Ha, now you got the whole badass thing goin for you. If you talk to her she'll ask you about it and BAM! there's your starting conversation.HandyAndy said:
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Supremo
Senior Don Juan
Dude you and I are pretty similar. I used to and am still struggling with keeping conversations going (esp. on the phone). Really, just talk about anything. Once you establish rapport with the girl, talk about her and her life. How things are, etc. It sucks when a girl isn't very talkative herself, but learning to be a good conversationalist is a whole category itself in the game of becoming a DJ.
Ive tried to talk to her today, i know im making a big deal out of just talking to someone, but the situation just doesnt let me! Its in class while the teacher is talking, she sits a few seats away from me and she leaves really quick after class, and she seems less interested, she doesnt really look over anymore... probably becuase I didnt make a move early enough right?
LostAndConfused
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Probably....i forgot who said it here but someone said: "Patience is a virgin."
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Supremo
Senior Don Juan
Well sheet son if you're still struggling with this just talk to her before class and say, "hey lemme walk you to your next class I wanna talk to you about X"
there ya go bro
there ya go bro