"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Introverted or extroverted?

crackers444

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I am wondering, Is it best for guys to to stick with girls who have similar personality types to theirs, ie: introverted or extroverted. I am rather introverted, and it is sometimes more easier to connect with people who are of my personality than extroverted personality type.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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KnockoutJM

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i actually find it easier to be with a girl of the oppositte, and people of the oppositte in general in 1v1 situations.. That way one person tends to lead, adn the other is a complement
 

The Sperminator

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I'm more on the introverted side. I like girls usually in between. If they are too much extroverted they usually like to party, go to clubs, hang out with other ppl all the time and thats not me. But I like them to be a little bit extroverted bc they tend to make me more extorverted and it's more exciting.
 

speakeasy

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I'm somewhat toward the introverted side and I prefer girls that are either dead in the center or somewhat more extraverted. I wouldn't want a girl that's extremely extroverted, it would drain my energy. Being around such girls even just as friends can become tiring.
 

Hitman10000

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Introvert here, while I can communicate to either ones, I tend to prefer Feminine extroverted types. Specifically Meyers-Briggs: ENFJ/ENFP.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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