"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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A couple of women have expressed that I have a presence that intimidates them. I've thought that they find me attractive but since they're a little shy, they think that I'm unapproachable. Why do you guys think that is?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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A couple of women have expressed that I have a presence that intimidates them. I've thought that they find me attractive but since they're a little shy, they think that I'm unapproachable. Why do you guys think that is?
Its good as long as they trust you and feel relaxed around u also
 

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Why do you guys think that is?
Why do you think that is? You know yourself better than we do. Are you physically imposing (tall, muscular, lotta tats)? Are you aloof, don't smile much, aren't very friendly?

It's interesting to think about the differences between "intimidating" and "dominant" though. Plus Rollo used to talk about having a "command" presence.
 

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Why do you think that is? You know yourself better than we do. Are you physically imposing (tall, muscular, lotta tats)? Are you aloof, don't smile much, aren't very friendly?

It's interesting to think about the differences between "intimidating" and "dominant" though. Plus Rollo used to talk about having a "command" presence.
It's not that I'm not friendly, but it's more of how I walk and talk. So, looking back at these I'd say it's the confidence. Talking to a doo looking chick doesn't faze me, so "dominant" makes a lot more sense.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I've gotten this same comment on a few occasions. If I know the woman already, they'll say it's due to an intelligence difference.

Something else I've been told by these same women is that I have a piercing gaze. If I'm showing a neutral expression or being non-sexual, women won't look at me twice if I look at them, it's like I'm invisible. If I put some sex or aknowing smile in the gaze, there's an automatic change in them and I'll get held looks and smiles most of the time. It's a pretty powerful tool.

The other interesting tidbit, from my experience at least, is that the women who will actually tell you something like that aren't necessarily the smartest girls in the world, but they don't fall for the feminist world view.
 

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Never take what women say at face value. For all we know, she said "intimidating" but what she really wanted to say was that she's not interested.... "Intimidating" might just be her codeword for "off-putting"....

Jeremy Meeks looks intimidating af but that didn't stop women from ooogling him because he's an attractive bad boy.... Dude is a convicted felon but women still threw themselves at him...He's married to a billionaire's daughter now....

I think those females were just politely saying they're not interested...
 

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