"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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A couple of women have expressed that I have a presence that intimidates them. I've thought that they find me attractive but since they're a little shy, they think that I'm unapproachable. Why do you guys think that is?
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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A couple of women have expressed that I have a presence that intimidates them. I've thought that they find me attractive but since they're a little shy, they think that I'm unapproachable. Why do you guys think that is?
Its good as long as they trust you and feel relaxed around u also
 

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Why do you guys think that is?
Why do you think that is? You know yourself better than we do. Are you physically imposing (tall, muscular, lotta tats)? Are you aloof, don't smile much, aren't very friendly?

It's interesting to think about the differences between "intimidating" and "dominant" though. Plus Rollo used to talk about having a "command" presence.
 

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Why do you think that is? You know yourself better than we do. Are you physically imposing (tall, muscular, lotta tats)? Are you aloof, don't smile much, aren't very friendly?

It's interesting to think about the differences between "intimidating" and "dominant" though. Plus Rollo used to talk about having a "command" presence.
It's not that I'm not friendly, but it's more of how I walk and talk. So, looking back at these I'd say it's the confidence. Talking to a doo looking chick doesn't faze me, so "dominant" makes a lot more sense.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I've gotten this same comment on a few occasions. If I know the woman already, they'll say it's due to an intelligence difference.

Something else I've been told by these same women is that I have a piercing gaze. If I'm showing a neutral expression or being non-sexual, women won't look at me twice if I look at them, it's like I'm invisible. If I put some sex or aknowing smile in the gaze, there's an automatic change in them and I'll get held looks and smiles most of the time. It's a pretty powerful tool.

The other interesting tidbit, from my experience at least, is that the women who will actually tell you something like that aren't necessarily the smartest girls in the world, but they don't fall for the feminist world view.
 

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Never take what women say at face value. For all we know, she said "intimidating" but what she really wanted to say was that she's not interested.... "Intimidating" might just be her codeword for "off-putting"....

Jeremy Meeks looks intimidating af but that didn't stop women from ooogling him because he's an attractive bad boy.... Dude is a convicted felon but women still threw themselves at him...He's married to a billionaire's daughter now....

I think those females were just politely saying they're not interested...
 

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