The Night
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FYI I'm new to this. I was talking to a girl at a bar tonight for 2 minutes and a male friend comes over and grabs her arm. I introduced myself and he says "I dont care." and pulls her away. How should I have handled this?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Good call scrumtulescence, she was drunk.Originally posted by Scrumtulescence
Was the girl drunk?
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
looks like you're onto something here but you didn't write enough for me to learn anything.Originally posted by The_Shezzler
You should have AMOGed him - AMOG = Alpha Male other Guy, TD has a plethora of different lines and information on this.
Tool the guy in front of the girl - make him look a fool!
DAS
Sarge On...
Are you having a bad night man?Originally posted by ethnomethodologist
Jay(attiqaaluk) you are pretty stupid, and you sound gay. Please smarten up, stop trying to seem cool, start learning something. Don't ask stupid questions anymore, and stop making comments that a 5 year old would laugh at.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.